A myth breaker

We are always hearing about ladies getting together with older guy and staying with them for the money, not always true.

A man I know 63 years old died recently, six years ago he met a 18 year old in his neighborhood, now the would put him at about 57. She had no mother or father friend were taking care of her. She Didn't speak english and he didn't speak Thai. I think it would be safe to say her prospects in life were not looking real good at the time. He was pretty much a loner and wasn't into the bar scene at all. They married each other, her maybe at first money and security, he for comfort that fit his needs. Did they love eachother at that point I seriously doubt it.

But with time common caring for eachother and sharing day to day life that changed.

The guy took care of her financially she is set for life as it should be, for someone you really do love. Did she have the fancy cars Ect. no and never asked for them. When they met she was a sweet kind beautfiul Thai young lady and she still is today.

I saw her at the funeral she was experiencing genuine grief.

She is staying with mutual friends during a very hard time in her life, all she talk about is how much she misses him and protecting those things in the house that he liked.

So when you see that old guy walking around with that cute young lady, it's not always money sometimes it's a loving couple.

Nice story,They both got their needs met.They were very lucky!Hope she has a good life and if she wishes,find a deserving new companion!
I 'm not inclined to call this relationship a ''myth buster'',but a lucky one in thousands situation.
I have one of those relationships and suspect many others on the forum have also.I would guess that all us in that position would say ,it is not easy and takes a lot of comittment ,work and trust!

Of course there just might be a moral there. If you want to live to a ripe old age(Like me) don't marry a teenager.Hope I didn't stray too far with this.

I don't think it would have made much difference in this case he died of cancer.

well theres a conversation stopper.

Passive smoker

Bullsh.it. Who are you kidding Ray - yourself? It is what it is.

You would rarely see an 18 year old with a 57 yo back home would you?

I wish you guys would smell the shi'ite you're spewing sometimes - it really does stink.

Do you know oldfield postings like that are not really what our forum needs. As I see it Ray made a very valid observation about a relationship that I agree you wouldn't see back home, but its quite common here.Your slanging reveals more about you than it does about Rays posting . Think before you put words on here . If anything at all smells its your lack of being able to express your feelings without resorting to using such vile language and attacking another member.

I wish you guys would smell the shi'ite you're spewing sometimes - it really does stink.

What stinks is you antagonistic direspectful attitude towards other forum members

Well I'm glad I live my life and not his, seems to be a lot of anger there.

I will just make one observation this is not Kansas Toto and what you knew at home has little to do with life here. Hope you see that someday and enjoy your life here.

It's a free and open forum for oldfield to express what he feels or so Ray and Stan have been saying ad infinitum.His language is colourful but no less valid than things i may find offensive.I find the talk of Rolex watches and Mercedes when i am surrounded by poverty offensive but hey it's a free world.If you cannot stand the heat go chat in some chat room with like minded people.

Yes a forum is a place to express your viewpoint on a subject, that wasn't apparent from oldfields reply. I would have liked to know what his opinion was but it didn't appear he had one. As for you being offended by talk of Rolex watches, gold jewelry and diamond rings all of which I have, having worked hard at college to enable me to have the education to get a high paid job and afford them.I feel sorry for you, obviously you didn't, but now you are surrounded everywhere by the symbols of wealth. You must have a very hard time coming to terms with your life.Song saen.

His opinion was that Ray's post is full of cr*p,something many may feel but he has chosen to say.

wickder wrote:His opinion was that Ray's post is full of sh*t,something many feel but he has chosen to say.

Wicker I have no problem with him expressing his opinnion or you expressing yours. I simply don't agree. If you choose to see it your way without any knowledge of the people invloved or the circumstances of the relationship, then that is up to you. I have no intent of even trying to change your thoughts. As to language doesn't bother me one bit. I can use the same language anytime I decide that I want to.

But nothing has changed in my mind, it was a loving relationship.

Now i know why Val always looks so camp in photos,he's Udon's Liberace.