A new relationship - feeling the way

So she no longer works in a salon in pattaya then, and she stays home with her mother, just a thought if she is a decent hairdresser maybe there is a job for her in her home town, the pay would be less than pattaya, but she would,nt be sitting round allday thinking about things, and as a suggestion you could say the both of you will put money away for a new house, as for the leaking roof,shame you can't get the carpenter from nazerath to make it good ..., her mother has probably been in that house for many years, and maybe quite happy there, she may not be happy in a rented house in town, away from her friends, as the oldies have lots of friends and in my experiance like the old way of living.And mothers are always nice to future son in laws.!
and as for the not understanding banks or tinternet, it's possible, but if she was in a salon in the heart of the entertainment scene most customers probably would be bar girls or dancers and the main topic would be farang boyfriends/money etc etc. (and i said if)
anyway all this is just my view ....good luck sugarfree.

She actually open a small salon in her mother house which is has also small items for sale. With the first 10 bath she could do that. She sent me later pictures from it and was very proud to have her own salon. In my last visit I could she all the basic things you need to run a salon and with pictures of me on walls and shelves. But customers er not many of course but evry now and then the ladys from the village come. The only salon in the village! Last time I was there I bought for her all kinds of items she needs for hair, coloring, nails etc. and other things barbers or hairdressers use. Her dream is to open a bigger place in Udon Thani. She doesnดt want to go to Pattaya or Bangkok for that. To nosy and propably to far from her folks for her taste.

well the more you tell us the better she sounds to me.

I very much hope your new love is as lovely as our daughter-in-law, who also is from a village near Sakhon Nakhon. One thing I have learned about Somying -- she is tight with her money and tends to put as much of it in savings as she can. I have to pressure her to go shopping for good shoes -- she'd wear one pair of sneakers until they fell apart.

Here's a practical suggestion:

Talk with her about the need to establish a budget, since you want to manage your funds in anticipation of a secure future with her. This allows you to place some realistic limits on your monthly outlay.

Have her list her monthly expenses (forum members can tell you if those expenses are reasonable). Assure her that you expect her to budget not only for large expenses (rent, utilities, food) but also for her personal needs.

You should be able to get a good sense of what her life is like on a daily basis, while letting her know that you don't have a bottomless pocket. You also should get an idea of how much she is providing her family.

SHARA

Do you mind me asking how old you both are?

I am in a very similar situation (substitute your hairdresser and salon in pattaya with my cook and restaurant in Ko Samui )

Me and the gf are 23 and 20, we've been together 11 months now. One word of warning is that the more you go visit her the harder it is to leave. It sounds obvious but i didn't realise how much of a strain it can put on a relationship. It will make for some tough times ahead but its helps if you have a goal you both aim for together.

Also remember to pay off the credit card from your last trip before planning the next one my mate didn't, visited a loan shark and now has some very large men knocking on his door every month

Chok dee

Ian

Sugarfree I would like to welcome you to your first semester here at Water Bufflo Unv. Here at WBU you will find the tuition to be very flexible from mild financial and emotional discomfort to utter financial and emotional ruin

Lucky for you that you found this forum and with the help of our knowledgeable members you may avoid some of the pitfalls found here.

Now that your enrolled here there is a very small chance that you will ever leave the school so sit back and enjoy the ride as it may be rough in spots but with luck your find it very rewarding

The advice from gulfcoastUSA about the budget is a good reminder. But before I can start to give her a lesson about that I better learn to do it myself. About time I guess because even though evrything is much cheaper here then I am used to money really flies around. Before you know it your broke.

The age difference is another issue. I am 26 and she is 49 ... no itดs actually the other way around. But I am not so concerned about that. My great-great-grandmother, believe it or not, was 52 years old when she had her first baby with her husband who was only 26 years old. And they were happily married all their life even though there were some rumours circulating in the countryside about him having an extra-martial affairs in her later years.

It is of course very difficult to leave your girlfriend behind and a long distance relationship is a lot of strain. That is why I have decided to move to Thailand as soon as possible. I had actually decided to do that before I met her. I am basically bored living in the western world. Even though we would brake up tomorrow I would still move to Thailand. When I came here first I wasnดt looking for girlfriend. Rather for a new culture. A place I could stay were I wouldnดt have to see the same faces in the television and hear the same tunes in the radio. I have been all over Europe and for me is just like leaving one room to another but always staying in the same house!

What I donดt understand why farangs have to leave the country every month just to come back again. What purpose does that serve for Thailand? Who benefits from that? If a marry for example I certainly would get a permanent visa or what?

I am coming back to Udan Thani in November. Is there any special place were members of this Forum hang out more then other places. I mean a place were people can talk and actually hear what the other guy is saying. The noise in most places in Thailand is so overwhelming I sometimes wonder if Thailanders have a higher threshold when it comes to perceiveing sound waves.