Families

Did you know one ? is sufficient? Maybe not as you are a *******. My point is you are so many words I could use to describe you, but I am limited by getting banned. You have no idea what I have done in life. I am not a numb **** who can do only one thing, I can and have done many things. I also know people, very well, and I know that if you are claiming your qualifications as a MH Nurse can lead you to making an online diagnosis of who or what I am, then you have forgotten about overstepping your field of practice.

Why not read the history here yourself and see what went on, because it may give you more of an insight.

Am I controlling? Do you know Manchester? I was a police officer there for 11 years, 4 as a sergeant, yes I can control, yes I can take control of major **** going down, and yes, I can be an arrogant prick.
I was also a copper in Oz, and a Prison Officer. I don't suffer fools gladly.

I can cook, I could have been a chef apart from a fucked up sense of smell from many broken noses from playing rugby. I am a published author, I have a diploma in editing and proofreading. I know and understand Thai work laws and visas. I did not mention anything about the problems of working in Thailand, but you assumed I knew **** all about it. I am not numb or dumb, so don't treat me like I am.

I noticed you, like most others, offered no advice re my original question but instead took the opportunity to pick on me. Well done.

Many of the expats writing in this forum have learn a lot about thai culture and understand the way of living and also implement it to there own lives. That includes give advice to other Farrang coming to this wonderful country for live and theres advice is very usefully for the most of us. My self i have learn a lot from this forum by reading the posts and it take long time before i posts. Now after live full time for many years in this country i have learn the thai way of living but.... that takes times.

I dont know who i should be sorry for, the people who you insult ore your self whit your lack of dicipline and god manner.....and i gues you give the answer by your self:

"I can be an arrogant prick.
I was also a copper in Oz, and a Prison Officer. I don't suffer fools gladly."

You come to this forum and ask fore advice and when you have them, you insult the people which give them for you instead of listen. It seems that you dont know anything about thai culture and i like introduce you for one god one......

TAM DEE - DAI DEE - That meens when you do something god - you have god things back!

petemcc wrote:
I noticed you, like most others, offered no advice re my original question but instead took the opportunity to pick on me. Well done.

As you well know, life can be tough at times. Just suck it up, and carry on, and do not let the bullying stop you. 55555

In regard to your original question, it is very difficult to know. I suspect only you and the lady can come up with the answer. If she cannot go to Australia with you for whatever reason, then she is not going no matter what you do.

NKStan's point is that you come off as an arrogant and overbearing know-it-all whose social skills are obviously lacking. This is not to say that you are not expert in whatever fields you follow, and work in, but as a person...well....it never hurts to try and get along with people rather than give them lessons in your qualifications, bluntness, and arrogance. O-T got it right too, I mean how many people would point out that their girlfriend's mother, and their patients, love them. Anyway, congratulations on that.

What is my point? Figure it out yourself.

And good luck with the lady, but sad to say, she might be better off without you if you are as arrogant with her as you are in your discussions on Udonmap.

petemcc wrote:OK, there seems to be a fair few decent guys on this forum, and a few who reckon they know what is best.

Right, put your brains into action...ready?

How the hell can you get a Thai mother and brother to wise up and stop being stuck in the dark ages and let their 38 year old daughter/older sister, do what she wants?

Is there a magic trick? How about money, gold, mind altering drugs?

Help.

How much time have you physicaly spent with this lady and I mean in person, not on a web cam ?

Could be that mum and brother do not think she (and they!) know you well enough yet. Could be she is thinking the same thing and as others have remarked is using the family as an excuse. Afterall you might have anger management issues or drink too much, maybe her former husband was the same and she (and they!) want to be sure about you .

The magic trick you ask about just could be as simple as you spending a bit more time with her (and them!) which would enable you to weave the enchanting spell of your many personalities over them

Money and gold will buy you most things here in Udon and in my experience aywhere in the world for that matter.

Sorry but I just can't imagine giving prospective inlaws mind altering drugs.

Out of interest Pete, have you asked a similar question on any other Thailand related forums?

petemcc wrote: I am a published author

No you are not

Hey, mate, if yer so bloody smart why the he.. are you asking for input from us ignorant fools?

My thoughts exactly Monkeyman ,, imagine sitting having a beer with him !!!! I thought we joined these forums to create ex-pat friendship and offer help to each other through our different experiences,,,,,,,, not to alienate ourselves the way he seems to be so succesfully doing.
If I was as angry inside as what he obviously is I would go and live in Afghanistan , that kind of anger could be put to good use out there ,, thinking about the thousands and thousands of miles I have driven over the LOS if I had driven around with attitude like that I would have long been blown away.
Good luck to the mystery 38 year old girl , mabe youll soon find your tee rak

barryp wrote:

petemcc wrote: I am a published author

No you are not

Oh yes I am, want to place a financial bet on it?

udonsmiles wrote:

petemcc wrote:OK, there seems to be a fair few decent guys on this forum, and a few who reckon they know what is best.

Right, put your brains into action...ready?

How the hell can you get a Thai mother and brother to wise up and stop being stuck in the dark ages and let their 38 year old daughter/older sister, do what she wants?

Is there a magic trick? How about money, gold, mind altering drugs?

Help.

How much time have you physicaly spent with this lady and I mean in person, not on a web cam ?

Could be that mum and brother do not think she (and they!) know you well enough yet. Could be she is thinking the same thing and as others have remarked is using the family as an excuse. Afterall you might have anger management issues or drink too much, maybe her former husband was the same and she (and they!) want to be sure about you .

The magic trick you ask about just could be as simple as you spending a bit more time with her (and them!) which would enable you to weave the enchanting spell of your many personalities over them

Money and gold will buy you most things here in Udon and in my experience aywhere in the world for that matter.

Sorry but I just can't imagine giving prospective inlaws mind altering drugs.

Out of interest Pete, have you asked a similar question on any other Thailand related forums?

No, I haven't asked the question anywhere else.
The mind altering drugs was only a joke.
I only have one personality in real life.
I admit I have only spent about 30 days physically with her.
I don't have any anger management issues or a drink problem.
They seem happy for me to live with her in Thailand and go into business, it's the Australia thing that is the problem.
Yes, perhaps time will help, and thanks for answering my question.

easterneye wrote:My thoughts exactly Monkeyman ,, imagine sitting having a beer with him !!!! I thought we joined these forums to create ex-pat friendship and offer help to each other through our different experiences,,,,,,,, not to alienate ourselves the way he seems to be so succesfully doing.
If I was as angry inside as what he obviously is I would go and live in Afghanistan , that kind of anger could be put to good use out there ,, thinking about the thousands and thousands of miles I have driven over the LOS if I had driven around with attitude like that I would have long been blown away.
Good luck to the mystery 38 year old girl , mabe youll soon find your tee rak

Another cyber psychoanalyst. How many does this forum boast?

Rather than jump on me to support your friends, why not take an objective look at what I asked and the replies I received. I did not up the ante and I am not angry, I just don't like idiots

petemcc wrote:OK, there seems to be a fair few decent guys on this forum, and a few who reckon they know what is best.

Right, put your brains into action...ready?

How the hell can you get a Thai mother and brother to wise up and stop being stuck in the dark ages and let their 38 year old daughter/older sister, do what she wants?

Is there a magic trick? How about money, gold, mind altering drugs?

Help.

What you mean your question was not answered?Arrogant ,know it all person who does not understand that there is a major difference in preference for Thais, for Thai customs and culture that you perceive as ''dark ages'' behavior!You don't have a prayer in a permanent mind set change for the mother ,brother or GF,although your ''magic tricks'' might give you some temporary success,which would only make your ''problem ''bigger in the end,IMO.

If you have anymore qualifications than already stated on this forum,it would be obvious that you consider yourself an expert in most areas already!Therefore your posting for advice is ,simply put,TROLLING!Trolling for opportunity to blow your horn about how smart you are,baiting others into argumentative situations because you have shown very little interest in our experienced advice.I suppose that is probably from a mindset that simply wants what you want and hopefully thinking that us experienced expats would confirm your thinking!

My ''diagnosis'' was confined to your forum personality!If you think that diagnosis or judgement of character is not seen by the early actions of a new poster,than maybe you are not as smart as you think you are,but I am positive your arrogance doesn't allow for self honesty,your EGO is ready to do battle at all that is not perceived as postive analysis about you!

What are the other ''5'' forums you post on?I'll bet that they ''love'' you as much as the GF family really loves you!

nkstan wrote:

petemcc wrote:OK, there seems to be a fair few decent guys on this forum, and a few who reckon they know what is best.

Right, put your brains into action...ready?

How the hell can you get a Thai mother and brother to wise up and stop being stuck in the dark ages and let their 38 year old daughter/older sister, do what she wants?

Is there a magic trick? How about money, gold, mind altering drugs?

Help.

What you mean your question was not answered?Arrogant ,know it all person who does not understand that there is a major difference in preference for Thais, for Thai customs and culture that you perceive as ''dark ages'' behavior!You don't have a prayer in a permanent mind set change for the mother ,brother or GF,although your ''magic tricks'' might give you some temporary success,which would only make your ''problem ''bigger in the end,IMO.

If you have anymore qualifications than already stated on this forum,it would be obvious that you consider yourself an expert in most areas already!Therefore your posting for advice is ,simply put,TROLLING!Trolling for opportunity to blow your horn about how smart you are,baiting others into argumentative situations because you have shown very little interest in our experienced advice.I suppose that is probably from a mindset that simply wants what you want and hopefully thinking that us experienced expats would confirm your thinking!

My ''diagnosis'' was confined to your forum personality!If you think that diagnosis or judgement of character is not seen by the early actions of a new poster,than maybe you are not as smart as you think you are,but I am positive your arrogance doesn't allow for self honesty,your EGO is ready to do battle at all that is not perceived as postive analysis about you!

What are the other ''5'' forums you post on?I'll bet that they ''love'' you as much as the GF family really loves you!

I only brought up my qualifications because I was forced to show my hand by people who were implying that I was an idiot with no life experience. The 'love me' comment was also a result of someone questioning how her family thought about me, in fact from memory it was a disparaging comment.

I would suggest if the moderators believe I am trolling that this thread should be closed, which indeed I asked for 2 days ago. Simple really.

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I would suggest if the moderators believe I am trolling that this thread should be closed, which indeed I asked for 2 days ago. Simple really.[/quote]
In view of your self description on your forum profile I think that is about the most sensible comment you have made .
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Gentlemen, gentlemen, gentlemen, enough already as they say, in Israel, let us leave this poor sad, person who is so indecisive that any advice given , gives yet further problems that he may or may not have to overcome.

he states quite sincerely that he is not stupid nor a troll, lets us believe him and say to each their own, but kindly do not disturb the equanimity that normally pervades this forum and take your puerile questions to another forum where the posters may be able to offer some light on his seeming insurmountable problems.

So Pete or who ever you are, thank-you for an interesting post, I am sure that in some far corner of this earth you will find the answer, on how to coerce a 38 year old lady who you state wants to live with you , seems unable to leave or go against her families wishes. You seem to forget the old saying, blood is thicker than water, or just maybe they see you as you really are, and SHE is just too polite to tell you.
And if YOU are a nurse, I am very glad I will never be ill in Australia at your hospital.