How do you cope?

Hi All,

This is particularly aimed at those expats who are advancing in years but anyone is welcome to leave a comment.

Im 48 years old and im finding picking myself up after whatever challenges life throws me harder and harder as i get older. In particular, people whom i have known for years, firends, family etc who have passed on from this world. I know it inevitable that this will happen, after all it is the human condition. However it does seem to get more difficult as i grow older, well for me anyway.

So my question, how do you drag yourself up off the ground after a disaster? And also are you finding it harder as you get older?

Thanks Everyone and Im really interested to hear anyones response!

Well here's a link that may give you a clue.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article ... isdom.html
But as someone who is 30 years older than you, in fact your younger than my daughter, I guess I am your target responder, so here goes .Firstly as the above study shows, age brings wisdom, after all it would be nonsense to think that someone who has been around for 30 years longer hasn't learnt anything in that extra time. Now that wisdom doesn't mean we are more intelligent than those younger than us but it certainly gives an advantage in understanding how to cope with the tribulations that life brings. Whereas you are now seeing things that happen around you as major, a person of my age is more likely to put them into a perspective in relation to all that is happening . Literally making them just a blip on the otherwise serene horizon. When you realise you are in the twilight years of your life you no longer crave for the sensory thrills of achievement but appreciate more what you already have. More so when you don't know for how many more days you will be able to enjoy them, whether they are snatched away by death or simply mental or physical disability.
I am not trying to lecture because believe me I have been where you are now coming from. I suppose its best summed up in saying, count your blessings and your worries will soon disappear . Easy said I know, but even attempting to ,will eventually bring its rewards . Good luck .

Thanks for your reply trubrit. I certainly get the not planning in your 20's and 30's! i started planning for the future when i was about 37 and being 48 now Im doing ok and will be where i want to be in 12 years when i retire.

The rest i dont know about, I did seem more able to deal with disasters when i was younger. I dont know maybe im just at a point where i need a break!!

Thanks Stan, ill try to do as you say. I just lost my best friend of 45 years a couple months ago. We were closer than brothers. Im finding it very difficult to come to terms with it. That plus alot of other crap has left me in a funk!

One thing i have learned as i get older is to listen to people that have been on this planet alot longer than I!

Cheers both of you, much appreciated

Aroy
This may sound weird, but try physical exercise. When one sits and ruminates, then tension builds up inside.
I have found it help with a long walk, jogging or other - it burns off adrenaline or something.
Then your mind can see things in a light not aggravated by inner tension.

Second, talk to another close friend, family, your wife, girlfriend. It helps to unload, just by talking about it.
Just my 2 satang worth.

Thanks Wayne! I actually started to work out again about 3 days ago. Im in alot of pain, lol, but it has started to already release endorphins into my bloodstream! Ive also been talking alot to people clese to me and its helping too. Just hard to loose someone whom i have know since i was 3 years old!

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