Back on topic I would like to thank Stan for explaining the circumstances.
When one hears a 39 year leaves a 72 yr the immediate reaction is "oh, she got the house and money, now she runs and don't take care of him". I am not saying that you wanted that, in fact you stated the opposite (about being taken care of).
Most of us mixed couples have an age difference (I assume), so this is interesting too for our own situations and what to do to combat it ending prematurely. Like SFguy wrote about, how to keep a relationsip going.
So thanks again for explaning. There is always more than meets the eye.
Stan, while you may not have the power of your youth, at least you can lean back and think "I have had an interesting life so far", not just "9-5 in a Pittsburg steel mill" life. That is worth something I reckon
I think it is great you want to rediscover your US grandchildren. And of course you and they are not close, as would have been the case if you had lived next door to them (in "Pittsburg

. But the rediscovery may be joyfull. Blood runs thicker than water.
Also I understand you care about you dog. It is not a question of competition between grandchildren and dog, just that you have an interest in both and want to do as little "harm" and as much good to both as possible.
Anyway, it is not my place to evaluate or judge, this is just another idle forum input
