wondering if I will be single by the afternoon?

In ALL english speaking countries, you are supposed to pay at least 30% of your GROSS salary for child support. If you don't pay , it is automatically garnished from your salary.

In USA and Canada you will go to jail if you fail to pay child support, even if you become unemployed !
I am sure that MANY men are here in LOS because of these laws

Dougness,

When she gets like that, think to yourself "What would a Thai husband do?" and do that. I've seen it work wonders. They don't put up with sh! behavior like that, so why do you? Act like a puss and they will treat you like one. Be a man about it, and man-up. Now, I am NOT suggesting anything physical. You can get the same result without resorting to that. A little works for me - only had to use it twice in 6 years and she knows her limits.

I went through the same protesting about the budget, and she has since faithfully recorded every satang in Excel, or her little spending journal book, for the sole purpose of being able to whip it out and tell me to shove off if I ever wondered what happened to her money. Works for her. Works for me. You need to find what works for you and HANDLE your business.

AND posting on the forum is better than other alternatives. Don't hesitate. Besides, you will never meet any or most of us anyway. Get it all out your system right here, my friend.

Cheers!

Yes, follow Khon Dahm's advice and see what happens. You soon have the Mighty Chang in all his guises (such as Parmoman, Farangano) taking charge of your thread.

Thai husbands are not one dimensional. They come in all shapes and sizes and do not always act the same way. Bad example.

That is not the main point, and, I think, you should understand better than most why it is important for you and your wife to work these things out on your own. Someone's advice from this and other forums might work in his or her situation, but might not be applicable to yours. You and your wife know one another better than anyone else on this forum. Use this knowledge wisely.

Don't respond.

kindly remember who earns the money , just as im sure you would do with woman in your own country . It eats away at me when people talk about Thai woman as if they are from another planet . It has nothing to do with culture they are all human just like us good ones bad ones .

Don't be taken for a mug stand your ground man

GOOD LUCK

DOUG

The answer is completely obvious and right in your face.
You're just status symbol / money tree to this 'bar girl' or whatever she is

Get rid of her

She using your money on her Thai boyfriend/Husband and of course the family.

You're paying a huge price for sex right now, it's cheaper in Bangkok/Pattaya with no hassle.

Since this is the first time anything like this has happened, I would say that you need to be more understanding.

Perhaps you are not sending enough money to her? And you are making her uncomfortable with your asking too many personal questions.

Perhaps you are seeing too much of each other? A relationship needs time to breathe.

My advice would be to keep sending the wire transfers (add a little extra baht just for good measure) and trust that it will all somehow work out for the best.

You know what

I think Johnny has a point there.

I think you should send little unexpected money transfers and she'll be the perfect wife. When she's upset, hand her a 1000 note. When she's happy, maybe give her 500baht!

You could always sell your car and possessions here if you're runin a little low on funds.

Best of luck

Heartbangkok and Johnny. You are both have such big hearts! One could almost cry. If all farangs in Thailand thought the same as you, how much better would not the poor thai girls' lives be!

Obviously you cannot see the irony in heartbangkok's post (and yes, i can see the irony in your post to JR).

Johnny Rocco, initials JR.. hmm

Joe

Hmmm, didn't see that. But I always thought JR stood for John Ross.

Well Jorg, irony is sometimes not so easy to grasp. It often eludes those who are not open. And Sanukjoe, my initials are JR and they neither stand for John Ross (you look too much TV) nor Johnny Rocco. Jorg, as you seem to think they can only mean John Ross, then you are not very open, are you?

I am locking this thread as it is way past anything connected to the OP.
For some strange reason his thread seems to have attracted nearly ever spammer the site has ever had, including some new ones. If dougness ever wants to tell us the end of the tale then he can PM me & I will reopen for him or he can start a new thread.