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Mai Dee, Mai Dee

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cheers..

I got it, I hear you all and "Thanks" all for your thoughts & advice. I didn't mean for any of you to think I was leaving my wife....not in a million years as she is my true love, even though I did say "If I was not married I would chase her sister" I was seeking advice on how to convince my wife to retire in Thailand and not sweat the sister thing.... It seems as she gets older she gets less secure and me getting along so well with her sister must have struck a nerve. There was no monkey business or thoughts of it on my part or her sister as far as I know. I'm a warm and fuzzy kind of guy and we just became instant friends, perhaps enjoying one anothers company a bit too much. I have visited Udon Thani and Nong Khai and really like the area.

Glad to hear that for you and your wife. Lets how to convience a woman not to be jealous, got me

You guys have a very long track record if she can still be jealous now I don't think your going to change that.

You sure that there might be more to your situation, it seem to be very hard for a lady to return here after enjoyng the independence of creating a life in the states.

They had to adapt there, so they are different then when they left. The family still thinks of them in the same way as before. It seems to be a difficult adjutment going back the other direction.

Actually probably easier for us guys we only have to just to being here. Unless of course you go back, for me that would be tough.

My suggestion put a little distance between you and the family, convience her to try a short trial period. Don't buy a house and don't, burn't the bridges. after a yaer if things are still the same, more then likely you should return to the states. I see your from California, I have a good retirement and there is no way I could do more then exist there. But there are other areas that are not as expensive.

Tough situation if she is not happy here I doubt that you will be.

Thanks everyone. My wife and I have talked it out and decided to try it for at least 1 year. We will rent a home and find some community programs/events that we can involve ourselves in. Our goal after retirement is to travel, relax, enjoy life and help others as much as possible. I certainly agree moving back will be easier for me than her but I'm very glad she has a supportive family. We will have a great retirement income but staying in California is not an option. I am very kind hearted and therefore want to help her family (very very poor) as much as possible. I will never give away the farm but have been blessed and feel the need and compassion to help...

Aircraftdoc, I very much agree with Bump's advice, particularly:

You guys have a very long track record if she can still be jealous now I don't think your going to change that.

My suggestion put a little distance between you and the family, convience her to try a short trial period. Don't buy a house and don't, burn't the bridges. after a yaer if things are still the same, more then likely you should return to the states. I see your from California, I have a good retirement and there is no way I could do more then exist there. But there are other areas that are not as expensive.

Good Luck.