cali4995 wrote:Wow, some of this is quite good stuff. You could really write a short guidebook
on girls & finances in Thailand. luckily for me I'm on a budget so my stupidity is
limited. Everyday I have a little gab session with the cleaning ladies at the hotel and they tell me their salary is 4k month. 40-50 year old gals with families.
It looks to me like 8k-10k per month should be more than enough for most girls to live comfortably, and if it's not well, they can go find a Thai man to give them that.
I've been around too many of these girls whose farang just bought them a house and they certainly don't talk about the guy with respect, far from it actually.
If every aspect of the relationship is based on multiple streams of income going to the girl or her family every month, can't imagine that lasting an awfully long-time.
Obviously, if the girl is spending all her time with you she needs living expenses and a little extra, but if they start with those crazy demands, show them the door.
Cali, I have noticed this too, and a lot of it, especially the poor guys who are 20-30 years older than their spouses, and mostly, with the guys that are only here part time, 1 month, 3 months, 6 months, etc, out of the year.
Even some of the one's that are here 24/7, but can't get "it" up any more.
Women are women, Thai or not, and they do have sexual needs, so there some of these woman that do have Thai boyfriends, and or some other side action, with alternate westerner ATM's.
Some Thai women, (that I know, not all) also want to have a Thai man on the side that will actually understand them, where as a westerner doesn't fill in the intellectual desires as well. Maybe, Thais could be considered by many westerners a sub-culture of sorts, (just an observation) but they are not sub-human beings.
I have a neighbor that just arrived today to see his wife after a year, and her boy friend is a Thai, and just left his house yesterday. She does say good things about her husband, but so many here talk a lot of B.S. about their western husbands. They just tell them what they want to hear, and keep the cash flow going. For some, it's a business. They are not stupid. Also, LOS is still a very underprivileged and developing country, so of course money is an issue. It's not rocket science here.
I also know a Thai women near me about 35 yrs old, house mortgage, car payment, and two teenage daughters. She makes about 10,000 BHT a month, and has no boy friend or husband. She manages OK. Not great, but living.
Cali, you are for sure correct about plenty of research material for a guide book or series of books about Udon, or anywhere else in Thailand.
Some of the things I have seen and heard, I could not make up. No book, TV show, or movie could match the s#!+ I have seen here. Definitely an experience to live here.
I think most guys here, don't really know what goes on behind their backs. I hope they do, but too many are blinded by the illusion of love.
Just in my area there are quite a few westerners, and most of their wives or girl friends do have side action, but I guess these things happen even in the states, or other countries. Desperate house wives are every where.
Even a good book! 
It's all a bit of a mess, I
