Sin Sod

farang wrote:Once upon a time, a guy asked a girl "Will you marry me?"
The girl said, "NO!"
The guy lived happily ever after, went fishing, hunting, travelled and played golf a lot, drank beer,had lots of girlfriends,and farted whenever he wanted.


THE END
yesssss

Once upon a time not so long ago...............
she kept hinting/asking me, i kept saying "Jai Yen- Jai Yen" then it just happened. no sin-sod either.!
We do live Happily, i dont go Hunting any more,don't really play golf,still fish, drink plenty beer though, no girl-friends yet, and fart when i like, when she's not around.

and yes chok-deeeee. to you philo.

u r a lucky guy BM
all the best ..
chok dee

beer monkey wrote:

farang wrote:Once upon a time, a guy asked a girl "Will you marry me?"
The girl said, "NO!"
The guy lived happily ever after, went fishing, hunting, travelled and played golf a lot, drank beer,had lots of girlfriends,and farted whenever he wanted.


THE END
yesssss

Once upon a time not so long ago...............
she kept hinting/asking me, i kept saying "Jai Yen- Jai Yen" then it just happened. no sin-sod either.!
We do live Happily, i dont go Hunting any more,don't really play golf,still fish, drink plenty beer though, no girl-friends yet, and fart when i like, when she's not around.

and yes chok-deeeee. to you philo.

Now, THAT

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Agreed.

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philo wrote:

TC wrote:A fool and his money are easily parted

Only farangs would pay "sin sot" for a bar girl divorcee with 2 kids

Thailand loves and laughs at you.....until the money runs out of course!

TC

It seems I have a communication problem on this forum. I wrote that I am going to marry a virgin with 14 years education that is educated as a nurse and is working in a hotel reception. And I get this dumbhead wisdom ...

To you other guys - thanks - but the family has not asked for a single satang. It is only the fact that there is only one girl in the village that has married a farang before (and she is now living unhappily in Germany. Don't take the goldfish of its bowl, please). The 1 mill. is in my opinion a necessary show off (returned the day after) in order to not make the girl in question feel that she is less appreciated than the unhappy goldfish.

Thanks, but I will not waste anymore time on this. Supporting education for kids aged 9-14 is a noble thing to do.
Over and out.

Philo, being a bit stiff on TC. As these threads take quite a few twist and turn, it is kind of hard to follow sometime. I have been a victim of this before.

As to your question of do I get married or not is quite simple to me. You answered yourself with the self doubt questions. You also say you will be a punter till death do you part. That is a long and lonely thing. As has already been said on here, slow to go will most likely be the best road to go.

I wish you the best in the road you choose.

I have been politely asked to edit the word ex w*****. Since it is not possible to edit a post that has been responed to, I hereby call upon the moderator to edit my last post to his liking.

Emotions, a few beers and misunderstandings sometimes produces a little jai ron.

Anyway, thanks for a good forum.

Philo, (IMHO) Taking your point that the family haven't asked for a sin sot and the background of your GF, I would suggest that 100K baht would be more than an adequate gesture. 1m to me would seem too flash and excessive and maybe suggest to them that you are less than prudent with the cash.

You will always come across or hear of someone who has paid more than you. Don't let that be your determining factor.

As suggested go slowly is the best advice. Wait a year and see how things have evolved. Long courtships are normal for many Thais, particularly if they are traditional.

Have just read all this thread

The thing that confuses me most, and I have heard of this being done many times, is if 1 million Baht or any other large amount is put up just for show, then aren't questions being asked in the future by neighbors when the results of that material wealth are not evident?

Regardless, make your own decision on the scenario you put forward. There are equally as many different scenarios as there are falangs with thai partners. What I mean by that is while some may think a thai bride to be would never think of suggesting that her future partner go visit a bargirl to satisfy his needs so that she may marry as a virgin, I know of a few cases where this has been suggested, with the falangs in question accepting and declining the invitation. However as soon as the relationship is firmed either sexually or legally then the "chop-chop" rule applies.

The only bit of advice that does generally apply across the board to everyone is as Arjay says "take your time". As BM stated, one can also apply with humour the "jai yen" stance especially when money, gold and jewellery are implied, and if thai girl care then with time these will gradually also disolve to the important ones - education needs for family members and sharing with items that the family unit as a whole are struggling with.

Good luck with your choices.

just a thought, i've heard of the cash for show, then returned, understand it is a common practice. only 2 things bother me with it, one it's for show, the family gets a million baht, but their lifestyle and purchases don't change a bit, nothing new bought, so the village knows it was just for show, which would look stupid if done in western world (of course i'm not forgetting where we are). the other, is putting a million baht on floor and hopefully getting it back on someones word, which if the question is asked, obviously there are reservation with this practice, which is perfectly natural. i would put million baht on the floor, if only in briefcase handcuffed to my arm, and hopefully i would still have my hand at the end of the day.

The thing that confuses me most, and I have heard of this being done many times, is if 1 million Baht or any other large amount is put up just for show, then aren't questions being asked in the future by neighbors when the results of that material wealth are not evident?

Everyone present,except the odd farang,knows the money goes back.All just for show really,a display of wealth to everyone there.Lots of cash shows high social status.

Locally the biggest shows are buy the Chinese Thais and i have seen 18 million Baht in cash and 2 million in gold when a family exporting medical drugs to Laos joined one with gold shops.

i think it was in my case that the family were very happy just to except a farang in to the family probably to give their daughter and obviously them a better life over an amount of time. and thats really what has happened, was looking after 5 people at one time, but now its gone down to 2, i also seemed to have educated the family about the value of Cash-money. the wife is a very careful spender with her "own dosh".
Also did manage to combine a wedding party with a new year party so it was'nt all that expensive. Jai-yen always works.And you got to be a bit sharp.
If you are talking about a Hi-so wedding then the pot would have to be very large. !
and agree with laphanphon handcuffs could be the order of the day if 1 mil was on the table.

Here's one for all you learned types:

My TG who lives in a tiny village near Nam Som (apx 100km NW of UT) has finally advised what the "conditions" will be for us to get married..before I go into that, she is 23yrs, high school ed, that's it - supposedly worked in a factory near BKK for 1 yr too..
Her parents work the usual potato/rice & buffalo farming. So she helps them out occasionally on the farm.

Sin Sot - 200 000 Bht
Wedding - 28 000
Gold, Rings, Necklace (?) - 42 000

(+ the buffalo x 4 @ 21 000 at a later stage - 84 000)

She says her parents will keep all the sin sot..plus I have the duty of paying for the family + so called family to attend wedding/dinner etc.

So I am looking at apx 13K AUD to get this marriage on the go.

Anyone have any constructive or even not so constructive comments?

Regards
Charley