Why do our partners try to change us?

My My Shara, How you can say we are all alike. I think if a few more folks would back up and view people, they will agree with you also. I have said before you look around in any village, town, city in any country and the people will be alike. Good and bad they are all there. You wanna find good you will, if bad you can find that also. Sometimes it is difficult to look that far, but if you do you will find some good.

It is funny but one aw s--t will trump twenty atta boys. People are the same way. One bad will trump twenty very good folks. Why do we remember the bad so vivid. Why not remember the lady that cooked your meal at the outdoor resturant that did an extra good job of cleaning your table as she saw you are falang or guest? There are many good people we meet every day. Just need to look.

A little off the string, but related to relationships between Thai and Farang.

Over the years, I've had many Farangs tell me how "lucky" I am to be married to an Asian.. "Oh, they're so submissive and docile".. My response is "Bwahahahahahah!!" Seriously, how introverted, submissive and docile could somone be to voluntarily marry someone from another country/culture, leave their homeland with no dream of coming back, and successfully build a family, have kids, and adapt not just into one country's culture but another one within two years when the husband moves. The viewpoint of many Farang that Asian woman and particularly Thai are truly "geisha-like" in the most misogynistic sense is to me, hilariously ignorant..
My interactions with numerous Thais outside of Thailand over the years make me believe that those who can make the leap into another culture successfully, or even not so successfully, certainly have much more moral fiber, spunk, stick-to-it-tevness than me.. My wife is, in colloquial terms, hard as woodpecker lips yet manages to maintain a sweet side too....
How many Farangs over here do you know that have made the total cultural immersion with language, life, et al, that most Thais who live in other countries have no choice but to do? Yes, there are a few, but despite my merely fair proficiency in Thai/Lao I don't think I could cut it..
I guess I'm just too spoiled from my upbringing in a western culture..