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Post by jackspratt » November 2, 2011, 3:01 pm

Plenty of good features - Aa exaggerates slightly. :D

From memory, gay relationships are treated the same as "conventional" relationships.

Also, you also do not need to be officially married for the Family Law provisions to apply - from memory (again), a defacto relationship of 2+ years is treated pretty much the same as a legal marriage.



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Post by Aardvark » November 2, 2011, 3:34 pm

jackspratt wrote:Plenty of good features - Aa exaggerates slightly. :D

From memory, gay relationships are treated the same as "conventional" relationships.

Also, you also do not need to be officially married for the Family Law provisions to apply - from memory (again), a defacto relationship of 2+ years is treated pretty much the same as a legal marriage.
Actually no Jack. Gay Marriage is not treated the same, nor should it be. It's against the Laws of Nature and should not be Tolerated imo. You may have your own slant on this, good luck :mrgreen: I think it's about time Men got a bit back, especially with the Gold Diggers who should have no case in the first place. If and when the Courts look at the facts and start revoking Visa's maybe, maybe these ***** will rethink their game. The Sun might be shining in Bandung, but the rest of the World has problems. Try putting your self in the Ops position, you may be surprised what your response would be 8)

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Post by Bandung_Dero » November 2, 2011, 4:02 pm

Aardvark wrote:Try putting your self in the Ops position, you may be surprised what your response would be 8)
Without including the DVO situation I think you will find most Farang in Thailand have been in similar situations in a past life, mainly in their home countries so maybe we can put ourselves in his position. May not be the same demographically but some sort of messy divorce and child custody/support issues are parallelled. I also think one response from most of us was to kept our problems out of the lime light.
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Post by jackspratt » November 2, 2011, 4:04 pm

I didn't mention gay "marriage" Aa - I specifically (and deliberately) said "relationships".

As far as gay relationships are concerned:
The subsequent Labor Government continued some of this progress in November 2008, when the Australian Parliament passed laws that recognised same-sex couples in federal law, offering them the same rights as unmarried heterosexual couples in areas such as taxation, social security and health, aged care and employment. This means that same-sex couples who can prove they are in a de facto relationship have most of the rights of married couples since 1 July 2009

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Therefore your views, or my "slant", are irrelevant on this point.

Getting back on topic, if I were in the OP's position, the last thing I would be doing is setting out my travails on a public forum.

Fortunately I am not - I am happily married in sunny Ban Dung, blissfully unaware of the problems of the rest of the world. :D

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Post by Bandung_Dero » November 2, 2011, 4:14 pm

jackspratt wrote: I am happily married in sunny Ban Dung, blissfully unaware of the problems of the rest of the world. :D
I am as well but fortunately not to him! No offense Jack. :yikes: :lol: :lol:
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Post by Aardvark » November 2, 2011, 4:30 pm

I did post a reply, but it either went missing or was removed. Anyway who cares, jackspratt rules supreme :^o :D

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Post by BenZona » November 2, 2011, 6:00 pm

Aardvark wrote:Plus "SHE" gets every consideration and Monitery consideration including Govt financed Lawyers, and "He" gets f....d over big time ;) Thank you Germain Grear and the Sisterhood, it wont be long before Slavery is re-introduced :shock: and I just know who the Slaves will be :roll:
I could beat her lawyer on my own, in half an hour.... but.... You are correct on all you just wrote except one thing it is ME who is gong to F^^k HER over, legally of course. She might have the communist shelter feminazis on her side, but, outside of their mutual minge appreciation society they are just useless idiots who think wimmen can make u whatever the hell they like to get one over on a man By the time i have finished with her she might as well go and get a tattoo saying "lying unfit mother" on her forehead

im going to get my son back home...thats a promise.. thats what parents do, fight for their kids.. no one comes in between me and my children, especially not a visa scamming lying violent cheat
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Post by ronan01 » November 2, 2011, 7:35 pm

Ben - setting out to f..k yuor wife is not a good idea. It will distort yuor perception and cloud your judgement. Australian family law courts take a dim view of this behaviour and do not permit themselves to become part of a "revenge" action. As jackspratt pointed out - the basic approach is "no fault" and they tend to put childrens interest ahead of partners issues.

Setting out to achieve the best outcome for your son is a good thing. That must be done within the rules and constraints of the family law court - not a good idea to take on the court or give them cause to consider you a "problem".

You will need to present yourself as a reasonable person with a reasonable. Think it a good idea to get into "character" by referring to your wife as the "plaintif" or "opposition" - a good discipline that may prevent an inadvertant outburst at official meetings.

The court is not interested in "feminist" issues or communists. Focus on court proceedings and what can be said there. These "nazi" issues are a distraction and will take up valuable "mindspace" and with no positive benefit.

Moderate your language and re-focus on main game - it will be better for you in every way.

Eventually you will have to let the hatred go. May as well be now, direct your energy to legal process instead.

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Post by BenZona » November 2, 2011, 7:53 pm

ronan01 wrote:Ben - setting out to f..k yuor wife is not a good idea. It will distort yuor perception and cloud your judgement. Australian family law courts take a dim view of this behaviour and do not permit themselves to become part of a "revenge" action. As jackspratt pointed out - the basic approach is "no fault" and they tend to put childrens interest ahead of partners issues.

Setting out to achieve the best outcome for your son is a good thing. That must be done within the rules and constraints of the family law court - not a good idea to take on the court or give them cause to consider you a "problem".

You will need to present yourself as a reasonable person with a reasonable. Think it a good idea to get into "character" by referring to your wife as the "plaintif" or "opposition" - a good discipline that may prevent an inadvertant outburst at official meetings.

The court is not interested in "feminist" issues or communists. Focus on court proceedings and what can be said there. These "nazi" issues are a distraction and will take up valuable "mindspace" and with no positive benefit.

Moderate your language and re-focus on main game - it will be better for you in every way.

Eventually you will have to let the hatred go. May as well be now, direct your energy to legal process instead.
Thanks Ronan, Im fully comprehending all aspects of the legal process (ive done it before) and know exactly what i have to do in order to get custody of my son. I might insult her on here now and again, but that means nothing in the context of evidence against me in relation to my parenting.

sorry to sound harsh before but, no fancy cover up will change the fact that this is now a legal war, and i am going to win, because that is what's best for my son, and my daughter.. Id actually like her to stumble on this forum and print off this whole thread to try to use against me, for i am sure it will not work out as she thinks

I am going to expose her for what she is and bring my son home, thats all mate, nothing fancy, just cold hard evidence
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Post by Bandung_Dero » November 2, 2011, 7:57 pm

Very sensible post Ronan.

Just to add:-
His last comments posted at 18:00 hrs, that must have been some sort of a 'counter lunch' session. Had a drink or two have we? Can beat her lawyer, will take custody of you son. That sounds like the piss talking not a rational man seeking justice.
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Post by jackspratt » November 2, 2011, 8:06 pm

BenZona wrote: ME who is gong to F^^k HER over, legally of course........... communist shelter feminazis ............ mutual minge appreciation society.............. useless idiots........ wimmen can make u whatever the hell they like............. to get one over on a man............... tattoo saying "lying unfit mother" on her forehead.

.................. visa scamming lying violent cheat
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Ya couldn't make it up. :D

Sorry (assisted by Aardvark) for earlier taking the thread off-topic Ben.

But one good way to get the focus back on the central character is to make a few extreme, and obviously absurd, comments.

I eagerly await the next chapter. \:D/

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Post by BenZona » November 2, 2011, 8:39 pm

jackspratt wrote:
BenZona wrote: ME who is gong to F^^k HER over, legally of course........... communist shelter feminazis ............ mutual minge appreciation society.............. useless idiots........ wimmen can make u whatever the hell they like............. to get one over on a man............... tattoo saying "lying unfit mother" on her forehead.

.................. visa scamming lying violent cheat
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Ya couldn't make it up. :D

Sorry (assisted by Aardvark) for earlier taking the thread off-topic Ben.

But one good way to get the focus back on the central character is to make a few extreme, and obviously absurd, comments.

I eagerly await the next chapter. \:D/
Bandung_Dero wrote:Very sensible post Ronan.

Just to add:-
His last comments posted at 18:00 hrs, that must have been some sort of a 'counter lunch' session. Had a drink or two have we? Can beat her lawyer, will take custody of you son. That sounds like the piss talking not a rational man seeking justice.
I cant help it if some men are so pathetically weak that they would not fight for their kids. I have actually met a few in real life, and it is very sad. Just because you would go ass up and give up at the first hurdle, does not mean i have to
Just because to are to weak to stand up and fight for what you think is best, does not mean i have to

The absurd comments did not just come from me Jack, it came from YOU TWO spineless nothings. Are you that weak in real life? Do you buckle under pressure? Would you give up on your kids? Because it seems like thats what you are saying i should do............. I can just imagine how you would buckle and fail if, god forbid, you had to stand up for what you believe is right, now.... what is so absurd about thinking you are going to win a case you are fighting? i am all ears... (my guess is what comes next is clichéd 20th century stereotyped arguments based on gender)

Its only absurd to you jack because, if you were n my position you would only know how to pump lawyers full of cash in return for every other weekend with your Kids, im not like that, i think its a sad way to be.

oh, and i dont drink alcohol.. bandung and anyone with half a brain would realise that i am not in Thailand, and therefore it was not 6pm.. senility is a hard thing to cope with isn't it?

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Post by kjellsnell » November 2, 2011, 8:52 pm

BenZona wrote:
jackspratt wrote:
BenZona wrote: ME who is gong to F^^k HER over, legally of course........... communist shelter feminazis ............ mutual minge appreciation society.............. useless idiots........ wimmen can make u whatever the hell they like............. to get one over on a man............... tattoo saying "lying unfit mother" on her forehead.

.................. visa scamming lying violent cheat
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Ya couldn't make it up. :D

Sorry (assisted by Aardvark) for earlier taking the thread off-topic Ben.

But one good way to get the focus back on the central character is to make a few extreme, and obviously absurd, comments.

i dont like this tread cause to many talk to bad of each other and i feel sorry the it get out "in the wood" cause its an importent task ruined by the writers............its time to push the reportbutton here!
I eagerly await the next chapter. \:D/
Bandung_Dero wrote:Very sensible post Ronan.

Just to add:-
His last comments posted at 18:00 hrs, that must have been some sort of a 'counter lunch' session. Had a drink or two have we? Can beat her lawyer, will take custody of you son. That sounds like the piss talking not a rational man seeking justice.
I cant help it if some men are so pathetically weak that they would not fight for their kids. I have actually met a few in real life, and it is very sad. Just because you would go ass up and give up at the first hurdle, does not mean i have to
Just because to are to weak to stand up and fight for what you think is best, does not mean i have to

The absurd comments did not just come from me Jack, it came from YOU TWO spineless nothings. Are you that weak in real life? Do you buckle under pressure? Would you give up on your kids? Because it seems like thats what you are saying i should do............. I can just imagine how you would buckle and fail if, god forbid, you had to stand up for what you believe is right, now.... what is so absurd about thinking you are going to win a case you are fighting? i am all ears... (my guess is what comes next is clichéd 20th century stereotyped arguments based on gender)

Its only absurd to you jack because, if you were n my position you would only know how to pump lawyers full of cash in return for every other weekend with your Kids, im not like that, i think its a sad way to be.

oh, and i dont drink alcohol.. bandung and anyone with half a brain would realise that i am not in Thailand, and therefore it was not 6pm.. senility is a hard thing to cope with isn't it?
These days life seems pretty good and I eagerly look forward to the continuation!

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Post by jackspratt » November 2, 2011, 8:54 pm

BenZona wrote: oh, and i dont drink alcohol..
Hmmm.....given it away since you got back from Thailand? :-k
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Thanks for the info Mr Mash,will avoid Nutty Park like the plague,no point going there for a beer if am having to throw it up the next minute by some scary creature in a dress.
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I usually drink ar Tongs when in Udon but as it is closed at the moment i had the misfortune to have to spend a few hours in this nutty park place. It was the first time, and the last time i will ever go there.

Its seedy, cheap looking, and 98% of the girls looked like heffers on legs. Considering what is around it, not very nice at all. I saw at least four bars for sale, and one of them i was told was only sold seven months ago. Me and my friends ended up next door, to the right of the front entrance where there is a new open air bar that served fantastic food, cheap beer and had gorgeous girls who were, to say the least, very friendly

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Post by BenZona » November 2, 2011, 9:03 pm

jackspratt wrote:
BenZona wrote: oh, and i dont drink alcohol..
Hmmm.....given it away since you got back from Thailand? :-k
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Thanks for the info Mr Mash,will avoid Nutty Park like the plague,no point going there for a beer if am having to throw it up the next minute by some scary creature in a dress.
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I usually drink ar Tongs when in Udon but as it is closed at the moment i had the misfortune to have to spend a few hours in this nutty park place.
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Nice Try .. but an epic fail, unlike you alcoholics I see this as me saying I DRINK there, not drink ALCOHOL. I do believe water or juice in liquid form is a drink... Also, people i go out with might well drink beer so i might well know that one place is cheaper than the next for beer... You actually went off and searched my posts for signs of alcohol use... how sad... why even waste your time .. what you doing Jack, Cyber stalking me??? Maybe i should get a DVO out on you (giggle)

now, try answering my question about what is absurd.. plz

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Post by jackspratt » November 2, 2011, 9:23 pm

BenZona wrote:
Nice Try .. but an epic fail, unlike you alcoholics I see this as me saying I DRINK there, not drink ALCOHOL.
Of course Ben.............if you say so. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Can you explain again what this means: :-k
.............no point going there for a beer if am having to throw it up the next minute
No point in who going there for a beer? :D

I reckon it is going to take a bit longer than 30 minutes for you to beat her lawyer.

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Post by bamakmak » November 2, 2011, 9:26 pm

BenZona wrote: I see this as me saying I DRINK there, not drink ALCOHOL.
I think your earlier statements are clear that you drink alchohol. It's really nothing to be ashamed about unless you feel that it in some way diminishes all of the indiscriminate accusations you make that anyone disagreeing with you must be an alcoholic.

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Post by pompui » November 3, 2011, 2:40 am

jackspratt wrote: Can you explain again what this means: :-k
.............no point going there for a beer if am having to throw it up the next minute
No point in who going there for a beer? :D
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What the **** is going on here,that is my post Jack,not Benzona's :roll: If you have the time,read my post in the context to responding to a Mr Mash post :roll:

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Post by BenZona » November 3, 2011, 6:26 am

pompui wrote:
jackspratt wrote: Can you explain again what this means: :-k
.............no point going there for a beer if am having to throw it up the next minute
No point in who going there for a beer? :D
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What the **** is going on here,that is my post Jack,not Benzona's :roll: If you have the time,read my post in the context to responding to a Mr Mash post :roll:
What get me riled Pompui is these idiots try to score old man back slapping points by raising pathetic facts taken out of context in order that they can high five each other at the night meetings.

Jack full well knew that was not me saying that, that is why he PURPOSELY left out the quoter's name.

All of a sudden Jack has become troll numero uno in this thread, lying, avoiding questions, attacking me with pointless arguments that do nothing except , well refer to my first sentence....

In all reality, what the hell does it matter if i did have one beer some months ago, I don't drink, end of story... I certainly do not have to lie about my alcohol consumption to continue a conversation with a few pensioners whos 19th century views seem to indicate that they take abuse from lying wimmen laying down....give up their kids, and then line the pockets of the tramp forever.... (classy outlook guys) and if it was at nutty park i slipped in a beer, it was probably to wipe away the lingering sight of loads of old men draping their wallets around young girls and claiming it as love

Is that the best you can do Jack, cos its pretty LAME, and Bam... don't be an troll, quoting things i supposedly said, and then not including the quotes make you look like a bit of a dingus ... so how about backing up what you say with the actual quote please..

You guys (the trolling foursome) would be lost in an evidence based proceeding, you are pathetic and if it makes you feel better thinking i was drunk at 6pm when i wrote that (even though it was 9pm and i was sober)then go ahead and think it. I could not care less and you make yourself look even stupider to anyone who looks in
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Post by Bandung_Dero » November 3, 2011, 7:17 am

BenZona wrote: You guys (the trolling foursome) would be lost in an evidence based proceeding, you are pathetic and if it makes you feel better thinking i was drunk at 6pm when i wrote that (even though it was 9pm and i was sober)then go ahead and think it. I could not care less and you make yourself look even stupider to anyone who looks in
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Oh stupid me! Troll #3, I think :-k . 18:00 or 21:00 Late counter lunch or a few with dinner, who really cares? Those were not the comments of a rational person so if sober was it the type of outburst that really pushed you ex into the direction she took? Just to be shot of you and find someone more stable!

BTW. I speak for myself why I’m posting here. To be honest it’s the entertainment value, you started this and now I’m running with it. Surely you weren’t thinking you would get ALL the UdonMap Members in your corner with a common out poring of sympathy especially after some of your antics.
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