Any Marriage/Relationship counselors in the area?

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Any Marriage/Relationship counselors in the area?

Post by rickfarang » August 28, 2015, 3:23 pm

I am in awe of the overwhelming helpfulness of the response!

The husband is in denial so I will go over these options with his wife.

Thank you all very much for your valued contributions.

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Post by pf-flyer » August 28, 2015, 5:45 pm

My wife and I has a discussion about this posting and we both agree that both sides the husband and the wife need to have the desire to work things out. The problem will not go away by just ignoring the issues and waiting for the disagreement to pass. The problem will just submerge and smolder until it flames up again more intense. I can offer that I have learned time and time again that those feelings and emotions that you feel immediately will lead you down the wrong path every time when you are dealing with a trial in your marriage. You need to take time to calm down and relax and let the feelings and emotions calm down. I still get those feelings and emotions but I have learned to be aware of them and to give myself time to relax and calm down. I am still working at it and it will always be a work in progress but I am getting better at it.
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Post by Robbkk » November 27, 2016, 12:39 pm

Hi Folks, I had a great experience with Mr. Eric Mason in Bangkok.
He promptly responded to my request by email on a Sunday morning, and was very engaged throughout our conversation. He was honest, supportive, and very helpful. While many therapists will take on new clients with many different types of issues and conflicts, Eric focuses on ADHD assessments and psychological testing. If you are in Bangkok and you are looking for a therapist you should contact this guy. His website is: http://psychologistbangkok.com/

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Post by oskar_lanning » December 11, 2016, 4:48 am

My wife is from Udon, I suggested marriage counseling, but she reacted like I had a disease. Her friends laughed. Pretty sure it isn't considered means to a solution.

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Post by semperfiguy » December 11, 2016, 10:44 am

oskar_lanning wrote:My wife is from Udon, I suggested marriage counseling, but she reacted like I had a disease. Her friends laughed. Pretty sure it isn't considered means to a solution.
It will never happen here! I've done counseling with other couples and it's a loss of face for the girl to admit that she has done anything wrong, so they prefer to stay in denial. There can never be improvement in relationships until faults are confessed, apologies are made, one seeks forgiveness and compromises are made. All of this goes against the grain of this whole idiotic concept of "gaining or losing face"!
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Post by Jello » December 11, 2016, 3:33 pm

oskar_lanning wrote:My wife is from Udon, I suggested marriage counseling, but she reacted like I had a disease. Her friends laughed. Pretty sure it isn't considered means to a solution.
Could be that going to counseling is stigmatized in this culture as it once was in the west. If your unhappy you might want to try going alone, preferably to a therapist that is versed in Thai/Western relationships.
Going Alone
Marriage isn’t always equal, and there may be times when you or your spouse works harder on the relationship. If you want to improve your marriage, working on yourself—even without your spouse—can be a powerful first step. As you begin to make changes, your spouse’s behavior may also change. And in some cases, your spouse might be so curious about what happens in therapy that he or she feels compelled to go with you. Even if your spouse never goes to therapy, however, going alone can help you deal with the stress of marital problems and, if your spouse refuses to work on these problems, help you figure out your next steps.http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/when-yo ... py-0523137

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Post by bamakmak » December 12, 2016, 1:24 pm

Mrs. Dtam at the Mono Place (which is close to Aek Hospital) provides counseling services. I am not sure if that includes relationship counseling, but you could call her and ask. She has a degree in Psychology and speaks excellent English.

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Post by rickfarang » December 12, 2016, 2:15 pm

To those responding to this thread, thank you for your replies. The original issue has been resolved -the husband does what he likes and sends money each month for the baby and the wife has given up on a dream \marriage. As per Jello's post, neither party would recognize his/her own wrongdoing.

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Post by jimjay » December 12, 2016, 10:16 pm

Very sadly, as usual, the child loses out on any semblance of family life except the cloistered one-side system. It's important to have both parents.

Good on your rickfarang for trying to help, -it's a pretty honorable thing you did, as you probably knew it could backfire but you helped anyways.

Will hope the best for the child on this one.

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Post by pf-flyer » December 13, 2016, 7:44 am

oskar_lanning wrote:My wife is from Udon, I suggested marriage counseling, but she reacted like I had a disease. Her friends laughed. Pretty sure it isn't considered means to a solution.
I have seen that reaction from the wifes family members also. Especially the senior family members will not hesitate to run roughshod over what is left of the relationship to assert and insist their solution to the issue at hand. The solution is usually the need to deal with an outside force that has nefarious intentions toward the relationship that has to be dealt with. I have not yet to see a solution in the villages that included each party of the relationship taking responsibility of their actions and words and to have an honest discussion being completely truthful with each other about their wants and needs. Face and Social status always take precedence.
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Post by parrot » December 13, 2016, 8:05 am

I hate to say it, but 'our' brains are wired 120v. The natives are 220v. Most everyone knows what happens when you plug a 120 appliance into a 220 outlet.

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Post by trubrit » December 13, 2016, 8:40 am

parrot wrote:I hate to say it, but 'our' brains are wired 120v. The natives are 220v. Most everyone knows what happens when you plug a 120 appliance into a 220 outlet.
It blows out.Well us from the Uk are used to operating on 240v so imagine the problem we have. :roll:
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Post by pf-flyer » December 13, 2016, 8:59 am

parrot wrote:I hate to say it, but 'our' brains are wired 120v. The natives are 220v. Most everyone knows what happens when you plug a 120 appliance into a 220 outlet.
My wife and I lived in Pennsylvania for 40 years. She acquired 120v mindset over those years. I have observed her over the years since we retired here in Thailand. She has her struggles with the 220v mindset also. There are times when she is trying to understand and she makes the statement " What is wrong with these people"
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