Well my comment to you , thanks for your honesty and although you are mentally upset, financially and otherwise you are not harmed.
So one could say better luck next time, but I fear once let down you will look at any other quickie relationship NOT through rose tinted glasses.

Thank you Paul. I'll watch myself better next time.

Hi.
Which Scandinavian Country do U come from?

Please answer in homeland language.

Venlig hilsen

maxeboy

I think it is totally unfair to pay 4 times a decent thai salary for her to live in Surin. I was offended, and hurt by that. ????

The amount you are quoting is hardly 4 times a decent Thai salary its 4 times the minimum wage for a month. 10K Baht will keep them in a bit of food, pay the electricity bill for the one or two fluorescent lights and if they are lucky the pump for ground water. If there is a child there are school costs as well. It is not a lot of money even for the poorest of Thai's. But if you can imagine Mum and Dad have a pension of 600 Baht each a month then it seems a lot. I agree with a few of the guys that a remote relationship will never work. I lived with my wife in Thailand for a year and the back of nowhere in Laos for another year before I was comfortable enough to say OK lets make this permanent. Do not think you are going to come here and live like a individual for 10K Baht a month

So you think 40 000 is a reasonable amount? Well i dont agree. Am I wrong? I could have given her more than 10 000...im not a cheapskate...but starting claim 40 000? Pls...hope I havn't done mistake here...

maxeboy wrote:Hi.
Which Scandinavian Country do U come from?

Please answer in homeland language.

Venlig hilsen

maxeboy

I cannot seem to be able to answer your message maxeboy. Norsk.

Not saying how much is reasonable SF just saying 10K is not really an amount of money that she can live on comfortably, especially if there is Ma and Pa and maybe a child involved. I know girls in Pattaya who do not work bar but have multiple sponsors sending way more than 10K a month each just so they can spend 2 weeks a year vacation with them. ?????? Just be careful and listen to the advice "Long Range" relelationships rarely work.
I am lucky to be able to stick to 45k a month but I have 5 to take care of plus dogs and everything else including too much beer. Good luck however it goes.

StupidFarang wrote:So you think 40 000 is a reasonable amount? Well i dont agree. Am I wrong? I could have given her more than 10 000...im not a cheapskate...but starting claim 40 000? Pls...hope I havn't done mistake here...

10,000bht.Well here in my village there is a lass that readily accepts that amount to not work bar, from 3 different punters. Mind you when they are off back home she is straight back to Phuket, she absolutely enjoys the bar life. When one is coming back she meets him in Bangkok, claiming her air fare from Udon of course, then escorts him home , where he stays at her parents house in an air conditioned room which she had specially installed for him to make him comfortable. Lol.Mind you all three thought they paid for it , as with all the small improvements recently installed including a complete garden wall round the property with gates .She is not at all ashamed to let everyone know, in fact she seems quite proud of it .Until the day two choose to come at the same time she will get away with it . Even then no doubt she'll wriggle out .

Hey Trubrit, one girl I know has at least 3. She has an English guy who cannot afford to pay the same amount as her AMELICAN, so he comes before Xmas has a week with her, cry's like a baby when the Amelican comes and takes her away to the 5* resorts for 2 weeks and then has a last week with her before he goes home, then cry's like a baby when he is at the Airport. Goes home sends at least 10K every month while saving to come for a month at Xmas. Go figure???

If two turn up.. I'm sure there will be a spitroast. I mean a BBQ of course..

Liam
Its not, she has him well warned (the English guy) if he ****s up her income from the Doctor from Amelica he's finished.
They walk past each other on the same floor on the apartment block. Never spoke to the Amelican myself apart from the usual Hi etc but it seems as long as he has exclusive rights for the 2 weeks he is here then he's happy. Nowt stranger than folk.

trubrit wrote:

StupidFarang wrote:So you think 40 000 is a reasonable amount? Well i dont agree. Am I wrong? I could have given her more than 10 000...im not a cheapskate...but starting claim 40 000? Pls...hope I havn't done mistake here...

10,000bht.Well here in my village there is a lass that readily accepts that amount to not work bar, from 3 different punters. Mind you when they are off back home she is straight back to Phuket, she absolutely enjoys the bar life. When one is coming back she meets him in Bangkok, claiming her air fare from Udon of course, then escorts him home , where he stays at her parents house in an air conditioned room which she had specially installed for him to make him comfortable. Lol.Mind you all three thought they paid for it , as with all the small improvements recently installed including a complete garden wall round the property with gates .She is not at all ashamed to let everyone know, in fact she seems quite proud of it .Until the day two choose to come at the same time she will get away with it . Even then no doubt she'll wriggle out .

The lack of shame is quite amazing, but I think she knows most Thais wouldn't say anything . My g/fs family regularly gossip about one local "mia farang" who buys all the whisky for the young guys in her village as soon as her husband goes away, she gets plenty of c"k, and as soon as hubby is back she is sweetness and light .Nobody says a thing .

Lets face it, i would reckon that a fair percentage of the guys (Falangs) who live here are not on their first marrige/first relationship. Most of the girls working/married to Falangs are probably not proud of what they had to do to keep kid in school, take care Ma and Pa, pay for brothers motorbike etc. We Falangs are sometimes not perfect so just quietly say JEEZ I am happy and hope she Take Care Me for the last few years.

AlexO wrote:Not saying how much is reasonable SF just saying 10K is not really an amount of money that she can live on comfortably, especially if there is Ma and Pa and maybe a child involved. I know girls in Pattaya who do not work bar but have multiple sponsors sending way more than 10K a month each just so they can spend 2 weeks a year vacation with them. ?????? Just be careful and listen to the advice "Long Range" relelationships rarely work.
I am lucky to be able to stick to 45k a month but I have 5 to take care of plus dogs and everything else including too much beer. Good luck however it goes.

Thanks AlexO. I'll take your comments into consideration.

trubrit wrote:

StupidFarang wrote:So you think 40 000 is a reasonable amount? Well i dont agree. Am I wrong? I could have given her more than 10 000...im not a cheapskate...but starting claim 40 000? Pls...hope I havn't done mistake here...

10,000bht.Well here in my village there is a lass that readily accepts that amount to not work bar, from 3 different punters. Mind you when they are off back home she is straight back to Phuket, she absolutely enjoys the bar life. When one is coming back she meets him in Bangkok, claiming her air fare from Udon of course, then escorts him home , where he stays at her parents house in an air conditioned room which she had specially installed for him to make him comfortable. Lol.Mind you all three thought they paid for it , as with all the small improvements recently installed including a complete garden wall round the property with gates .She is not at all ashamed to let everyone know, in fact she seems quite proud of it .Until the day two choose to come at the same time she will get away with it . Even then no doubt she'll wriggle out .

I see...but the big question is...does this apply to the majority of these girls? I mean...on the internet you can read a ton of stories about guys who have crashed and burned...but how many will log on just to write how happy they are, and how things worked out well for them in the end? This applies to everything written on the internet...you buy something, it doesn't work like it should, and you write a pissed of review, wether it's a hotel room, your computer etc. But when it works...what percentage leaves a raving review about it? I know I seldom do, exept in some rare cases. When i started this thread i knew I would get a lot of different opinions. I appreciate every single advice you guys have given me, thanks a lot! Much appreciated

When I first came here, I saw females saying good-bye to one foreigner in the departure lounge and hello about 5 mins later to a new foreigner in the arrivals, so it is nothing new.
If you get to know Thais although they say nothing ( culture ) they think and speak amongst themselves. Publically they will not show any disdain for the errant female privately it is another story.
I know plenty of men who have met ladies through bars etc, a goodly majority make a good go of it and smaller percentage make a success of the relationship. I tried and failed .
Many who made a success of it actually went back to their own countries with said g/f, wife and it was that, that changed their ( g/f, wife ) outlook and perspective on life generally.
How much you pay , well that is a personal decision, you pay what you feel comfortable with, knowing all the facts or not as the case maybe.
Many ( Thai ladies ) still view even a loving relationship as a job, as do their parents and expect cash at the drop of a hat to pay for this and that , the monetary value of services rendered is becoming outdated and shows many ladies , as what they really are, gold -diggers, who by definition are not really nice people.
WE ( farang ) seek some solace for our worldly needs and comfort in knowing that the relationship is one on one, the constant knowledge that she could at the drp of the hat seek comfort in another mans arms when you are not there, or as you get older while you are there, gnaws at you mentally .
It makes you unhappy and disillusioned with life , something we possibly left our own countries because of . Many say it does not matter, as they lie to you they are also lying to themselves, deep down they are hurting and are very unhappy, no-one wants to made a fool of, so, they will not admit to themselves what is happening, I know of a few to whom it has happened and see them crumble when they admit / learn the situation. I know of one man who paid handsomely for a very pretty lady to take care of him , when he went to bed, she went out and enjoyed all the pleasures on offer, he did not know ( or maybe he did ) , but as he was happy no-one told him. he died happily before he really know, we are often complicit in the charade, not talking and viewing the wealthier man as a silly fool.
Life here for many Thais is hard, we object to how and what they do to survive, but I do feel that as we are paying the bill as it were, we can ask for some loyalty and honesty, those things are often in short supply here unfortunately.

We (falang) should also realize we are not fooling anyone. When the age difference between you and your spouse is twenty years or more, what do you expect. Why would a young girl in your home country want to be with you, if not for the money and security, unless they have a wrinkle fetish...lol

Just don't be a "chowderhead".


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It is true that most stories you hear are horror stories. My horror story was from America so it is not worth the time to tell about it. I had a VERY bitter and expensive divorce. I got ripped off big time. The happily married guys here seldom post on forums and are simply enjoying life. I'm glad to say that I am in the happy group.

glalt wrote:It is true that most stories you hear are horror stories. My horror story was from America so it is not worth the time to tell about it. I had a VERY bitter and expensive divorce. I got ripped off big time. The happily married guys here seldom post on forums and are simply enjoying life. I'm glad to say that I am in the happy group.

Same here glait.. respect and a happy Chinese NY to you n yours.. even though we dont know each other.. (cept I didnt have a horror story after 30 marriage n divorce.. was easy./clean n cheap. ) here no issues.. EVER... excellent wife.. ok she doesnt drink.. but sometimes gets a bit excited after 3 green teas.. rocknroll..