trubrit wrote:if there is any arrogance on display here it's in the final remark of the OP. I personally had a good laugh at OT's post. He had , in his own imitable way, put into words of humour, the thoughts of many of us.If you come onto this forum asking for advise, you get it, based on our own varied experiences, which can be good or bad, depending on the subject.On this particular one most of us, even those in a good relationship now, have been through the mill at some time. I am only surprised at the number of times we are asked this one and been ignored or insulted by the writer, that anyone bothers too reply in a serious vein . I certainly don't. When I read a new one my immediate thought is"Another ****" and that's not meant to be insulting, because I too have been one, just a recognition of the gullibility of man in general .Be thankful that this forum exists and it's members are still willing to try and prevent you becoming another victim. I hope your relationship turns out as long lasting and as happy as mine, but if it doesn't learn from your time at WBU. :-"

This is good advice and deserves to be at the top of a page.

Any update from the OP'er?

Ha everyone for those trying to find a thai girl do not give up after looking for 6 months 5 years ago i found a nice thai
girl in thailove links she never asked for money and because i was busy with my work for the first two years she come to me, i was 50 she was 33 with a 8 year old girl it takes a little while for a thai girl to warm up to you however after about 6 months she will start to fall in love with you.

My girl is from Udon Thani i am a aussie she has good work and now we are thinking about getting married, if you are looking stay away from holiday places find a girl in a country city.

I would have talked to 100 girls before i found my thai lady so keep trying.

Hello. It's the OP again.
I've been off the site for a while and decided to take a peek to see if there was any response to my last post.
I like true brits response:

trubrit wrote:
if there is any arrogance on display here it's in the final remark of the OP. I personally had a good laugh at OT's post. He had , in his own imitable way, put into words of humour, the thoughts of many of us.If you come onto this forum asking for advise, you get it, based on our own varied experiences, which can be good or bad, depending on the subject.On this particular one most of us, even those in a good relationship now, have been through the mill at some time. I am only surprised at the number of times we are asked this one and been ignored or insulted by the writer, that anyone bothers too reply in a serious vein . I certainly don't. When I read a new one my immediate thought is"Another ****" and that's not meant to be insulting, because I too have been one, just a recognition of the gullibility of man in general .Be thankful that this forum exists and it's members are still willing to try and prevent you becoming another victim. I hope your relationship turns out as long lasting and as happy as mine, but if it doesn't learn from your time at WBU. :-"


I admit looking back that I was probably defensive at the time and there was no need to react so strongly. I took old timers remarks about turning into a "mong" as a personal attack as opposed to a general witness of what often happens. Sorry for the attack old timer and yes, I have shown myself in the past to be gullible, yes I did come here looking for advice, and yes it's good to be warned of what has happened to many of us who venture in.
I am still seeing the new girl I described. I'm taking my time. She is still showing me to be a great girl (supports herself, is honest and hard working and no drama!). I think I may have found one of the good ones.
Thanks to all who warned me of the dangers and signs of what to look for.
I will be visiting her again soon in the near future. Wish me luck that I see who she really is and it continues.
I don't come on this site anymore as I don't have the drama I did with the first girl I described and I've learned what some of the warning signs are and don't feel I need any more advice. I'd be surprised if I'm being fooled here (I think I have a good idea of her character after knowing her for a year now) but will be sure to update should any surprises come up in the future.
Take care and thanks again to all for the advice/wisdom.
Cheers.

jai yen yen
Female Advice: New Thai Girlfriend/Money
August 2, 2013, 11:35 pm
Well the truth is a lot of us have found great wives and girlfriends in Thailand so it is not an impossible feat.

Here here well said

If you have to ask then you should not be here, you want a hooker then you ask what is the price simple.

Very good answer Reddevil =D>

most relationships in thailand work with a 2 way bennifit,farang has the company of a beautiful thai woman,the thai woman has security with money,this mutual relationship can last long time if she is happy with money you can afford to pay her,but it will finnish when your money runs out rember that

most but not all.

pmc wrote:most but not all.

Correct. I know through personal experience

fredythehound wrote:most relationships in thailand work with a 2 way bennifit,farang has the company of a beautiful thai woman,the thai woman has security with money,this mutual relationship can last long time if she is happy with money you can afford to pay her,but it will finnish when your money runs out rember that

And farang women don't wander off if the money runs out? They can wander off even if the husband has money but for some daft reason they have grown to hate the husband's guts.

GT93 Sounds like you are speaking from experience.

if i want to stay with a thai lady i am happy to pay for accomadation and food and give her 2000 baht per week spending money no more,i make this clear before we start living together,if she wants more i say goodbye,i have lived with 14 thai women over the years ,with me normally ending it as i get bored with the same one after a while,this may sound selfish,but i do play fair ,alot fairer than most thai women use their farang boyfriends,and i,m glad to say i am too street wise to beleave stories some try to tell me to get extra money,so be fair but dont be a mug thats my motto

fredythehound wrote:this may sound selfish...............

Shallow was more the word that sprang to my mind.

But I guess it all depends on what you are looking for.

Interesting arrangement, fredythehound. All depends on what you're looking for, I guess. I do like that you set the terms (although the ones I set would be different) up front, full disclosure to her, then stick to them. Up to her whether they work for her or not.

girlfriend i normally go for,is one who is already working office supermarket ect,one typicle exsample,she earns 8000 baht a month,pays out 4000 baht for rent and food ect,moves in with me no food or rent money needed,so shes now got 8000 clear from her work plus 8000 from me per month,so instead of having just 4000 baht clear shes now got 16000 clear ,thats not to bad 16000 just to do what she wants,and no bills

fredythehound wrote:girlfriend i normally go for,is one who is already working office supermarket ect,one typicle exsample,she earns 8000 baht a month,pays out 4000 baht for rent and food ect,moves in with me no food or rent money needed,so shes now got 8000 clear from her work plus 8000 from me per month,so instead of having just 4000 baht clear shes now got 16000 clear ,thats not to bad 16000 just to do what she wants,and no bills

But she does have to live with you.

W--k, W--k, W--k , Money in the bank

yes i not one of those who send money to a lady i dont live with,and also for 2000 wkly she cleans house ect and cooks ,if we not eating out,as i said its a mutual benifit,and a nice happy relationship

To the OP don't be embarrassed welcome to WBU