girlfriend i normally go for,is one who is already working office supermarket ect,one typicle exsample,she earns 8000 baht a month,pays out 4000 baht for rent and food ect,moves in with me no food or rent money needed,so shes now got 8000 clear from her work plus 8000 from me per month,so instead of having just 4000 baht clear shes now got 16000 clear ,thats not to bad 16000 just to do what she wants,and no bills

fredythehound wrote:girlfriend i normally go for,is one who is already working office supermarket ect,one typicle exsample,she earns 8000 baht a month,pays out 4000 baht for rent and food ect,moves in with me no food or rent money needed,so shes now got 8000 clear from her work plus 8000 from me per month,so instead of having just 4000 baht clear shes now got 16000 clear ,thats not to bad 16000 just to do what she wants,and no bills

But she does have to live with you.

W--k, W--k, W--k , Money in the bank

yes i not one of those who send money to a lady i dont live with,and also for 2000 wkly she cleans house ect and cooks ,if we not eating out,as i said its a mutual benifit,and a nice happy relationship

To the OP don't be embarrassed welcome to WBU

fredythehound wrote:yes i not one of those who send money to a lady i dont live with,and also for 2000 wkly she cleans house ect and cooks ,if we not eating out,as i said its a mutual benifit,and a nice happy relationship

With the greatest of respect.........it sounds good, so why change it 14 times ?

fredythehound wrote:most relationships in thailand work with a 2 way bennifit,farang has the company of a beautiful thai woman,the thai woman has security with money,this mutual relationship can last long time if she is happy with money you can afford to pay her,but it will finnish when your money runs out rember that

Not what my friends and myself have experienced Freddy. If treating a partner like a car that you can trade in when you get bored of it floats your boat you'll never be one of the guys who gets done over in Thailand. =D>
It's not a viable option for those of us who like to have a little love and caring in a relationship.

davecryan wrote:

fredythehound wrote:yes i not one of those who send money to a lady i dont live with,and also for 2000 wkly she cleans house ect and cooks ,if we not eating out,as i said its a mutual benifit,and a nice happy relationship

With the greatest of respect.........it sounds good, so why change it 14 times ?

because i like diffrent experinces with different woman,i did fall in love once with a lovely lady and being with her i did not want to wander,but she let me down big time,and it made my mind up never to get too attached again.

grievous wrote:

fredythehound wrote:most relationships in thailand work with a 2 way bennifit,farang has the company of a beautiful thai woman,the thai woman has security with money,this mutual relationship can last long time if she is happy with money you can afford to pay her,but it will finnish when your money runs out rember that

Not what my friends and myself have experienced Freddy. If treating a partner like a car that you can trade in when you get bored of it floats your boat you'll never be one of the guys who gets done over in Thailand. =D>
It's not a viable option for those of us who like to have a little love and caring in a relationship.

yes if your with a nice thai lady and and you both love each other ,theres no doubt this is the very best relationship,nothing can beat that

PS and i am truly happy for you ,and wish you both the very best

Or as an Isaan female friend in Udon Thani laughingly says to me every time we meet, 'Give me money!!!'

Laan Yaa Mo wrote:Or as an Isaan female friend in Udon Thani laughingly says to me every time we meet, 'Give me money!!!'

It's in her jeans (sic). When I was a GI here, her grandfather used to say, "one Baht" whenever he saw me.

We are all so quick to be cynical and yes it is true, most of us have heard the same story so many times with ALL the variations , we are cynical old buggers who for many havea relationship that works, whether it is paying money or just being there. over mthe years we have cut out the fat as it were and have what we have and are happy with it.
Some ladies do actually tell the truth, but it is hard to ascertain what is truth and what is not. family ties are stronger than we think and what the parents say will have an impact, not many will ignore family no matter how old they are.

As with all these matters, everyone has to make their own choiuces, the OP had heard the negatives and some positives, but in the end has to make his own choice and decision. If you are hapy to provide whatever it is being asked for then do so, but never never spend more than you are prepared to lose. if you do not lose it, BONUS.

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...family ties are stronger than we think and what the parents say will have an impact, not many will ignore family no matter how old they are...

My wife told me there's a saying the Thais are taught, "You can have many boyfriends or even husbands, but you have only one mother and father". And they hear this from a very early age.

You have just about the same guarantee here as any where else. You going to buy into this life style money is a part of it and that is a fact. We can marry the sweetest most honest person. Doesn't mean it's going to stay that way no matter where you are. People change with time, that can be bad or good.

I think I have already said this don't bring or send anything here you can't afford to lose.

If your thing is to wear the white hat save them and that makes you happy go for it

You seem to be really bothered by this money aspect, your far to young to retire. If it bothers you it's simple don't do it. If you feel that way you do it you will be unhappy. That's not the idea.

You hear all kind of stories about Bar Girls. Yet I know people that have married them and are happy.

I think you are seeking the impossible, assurance that nothing will go wrong. None of us have that, life is full of risk and this is no different.

Khun Paul wrote:We are all so quick to be cynical and yes it is true, most of us have heard the same story so many times with ALL the variations , we are cynical old buggers who for many havea relationship that works, whether it is paying money or just being there. over mthe years we have cut out the fat as it were and have what we have and are happy with it.
Some ladies do actually tell the truth, but it is hard to ascertain what is truth and what is not. family ties are stronger than we think and what the parents say will have an impact, not many will ignore family no matter how old they are.

As with all these matters, everyone has to make their own choiuces, the OP had heard the negatives and some positives, but in the end has to make his own choice and decision. If you are hapy to provide whatever it is being asked for then do so, but never never spend more than you are prepared to lose. if you do not lose it, BONUS.

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hear hear

I agree that everyone has had different life experiences regarding relationships in Thailand and abroad and through them have gained their own opinions.
The comment below makes assumptions that everyones experiences are the same by saying "Most" possibly should have started the sentence with "In my opinion" or "my experience of relationships in thailand"

"most relationships in thailand work with a 2 way bennifit,farang has the company of a beautiful thai woman,the thai woman has security with money,this mutual relationship can last long time if she is happy with money you can afford to pay her,but it will finnish when your money runs out rember that"

most is not everyone,and do you not agree that most thai women at first are attracted to farangs for the money side rather than the physical attractions,or do you think money does not come into it ,and they rather an older farang,with language barrier than a young handsome thai man with many interests in common,not saying relationship can not develope into a happy one with both parties concerned,and i,m not saying all thai ladies think like this

I.ve said my bit about this, but will ask a question. When and if you get to know a Thai lady ( in some cases I'll use that word loosely ) after a while you may or may not go your own way. How many times do they ring you just to ask if you are Ok or when they ring you, is it because they miss the dosh you gave them for whatever it was they did for you ?
Personally I think in 11 years I have had two who rang me, just to ask how I was, and I am living with one of them now. Nuff said I think.

answer to your question,i still keep in touch with 2 thai ladies who i first met over 6 years ago,and yes they do phone me sometimes,and i like to think its because of friendship,but dosh might come into it as well lol