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Post by jai yen yen » October 7, 2013, 12:38 pm

Seriously, Bar girls are for fun not relationships. To a bargirl money is the most important thing, you will never be that important to her. Unless you have lots of money. :D



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Post by akwoodworker » October 7, 2013, 1:04 pm

The guys here, Fairbanks, Alaska, who married bar girls are a happy lot. Their wives love money, spending money,all the time. Have to agree bar girls are for fun, not serious. You may find one if you keep going through them but by that time you will be broke and no bar girls likes a broke man, gotta have the cash. Your choice, perhaps it is something you have to learn first hand. Odds are the day you leave another is in the wings.

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Post by kenadams » October 7, 2013, 4:51 pm

Yea.. I guess I'm starting to see the light a bit more... Think I'm always going to be thinking further down the line just how many guys have screwed her, or will I always just be thinking she's just a bar girl and never be able to get past that.
I'm not overly concerned with the money draining bit just yet, if she were to move it would be her visa and I guess I wouldn't be tied in too deep. Granted I'm sure I'd be coughing up a bit at the start, but I guess I would do that for anyone I was seeing if they were moving over. She sent a fair bit of money home when she was in oz last time to her family... Guess she will probably be asking me to do the same few years down the line.
Yea, under no illusions if she stays in Phuket she will be with customers and back to what these girls do best.
Nevertheless, I haven't invested anything into this yet and definetly proceeding with caution... Somebody mentioned some tests to do to figure her out a bit more, what do these tests involved?
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On a future note, where do I find a Thai girl with a better chance of not being a scammer or money fiend?!

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Post by marjamlew » October 7, 2013, 5:14 pm

If she lived in Oz for 6 years she's have residency status and therefore wouldn't need a tourist visa. Just fly her in and see how you go. If she doesn't have residency status maybe she's bullshitting ya about the 6 years.
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Post by marjamlew » October 7, 2013, 5:34 pm

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On a future note, where do I find a Thai girl with a better chance of not being a scammer or money fiend?![/quote]


Internet dating site for sure. :shock: :shock: \:D/ \:D/ [-X

IMO the only way to do this is to spend a lot of time in Thailand, apply common sense and good judgement and have a lot of good luck.
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Post by dcmark » October 28, 2013, 7:37 pm

kenadams wrote:Think I'm always going to be thinking further down the line just how many guys have screwed her, ....
I never understood this line of thought. We all have a past. Some of us more than others. Is there a magic number of former partners above which you deem her past behavior unacceptable? And what does money have to do with it? You go out with a girl at home, you think you're not paying? It's just not an explicit transaction, that's all.

Nah, it's not the number of men she's been with. For me, it's 1) Is she disease-free, and 2) her mental/emotional state. If she's a typical bargirl, she has the mindset of one, and that's the problem for me, regardless of how many men she's been with.

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Post by fatbob » October 29, 2013, 7:47 pm

kenadams, do what is best for you, if you listen to all the negative misery guts on this forum you will be destined to a horrible life, there are plenty who have married girls who worked in bars and have solid relationships. There was one comment by a no hoper saying would you marry a prostitute from Australia, the obvious difference is a pro from Aust is most likely supporting a self inflicted heroin habit where a Thai girl will be supporting her family, they are not the same but best for you to sort your own head out, remember most of the posters on this forum are old and spend very little time in Thailand yet are absolute experts, if you are 31 and she is 30 only you know if you clicked.

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Post by jackspratt » October 29, 2013, 7:57 pm

Further to coxo's "advice", I would suggest you be very careful about listening to broad generalisations, which may or may not have any basis in fact. =D>

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Post by dezzer » October 29, 2013, 9:17 pm

At the end of the day(Buyer be aware you could be lucky on the other hand you could be unlucky only you know my friend)you can heed the advice given but the decision is YOURS,good luck my friend.
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Post by Drunk Monkey » October 29, 2013, 9:27 pm

There are many "experts" living here , some happy - some not , some wiser than others whose to give advice as many have differing views ... for sure choosing a life here in Thailand is a big decision ,, there will be ups and downs ,, life is a roller coaster ... just get on and enjoy the ride ..

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Post by glalt » October 30, 2013, 12:45 pm

I have more respect for a prostitute than I have for a slut. I was married to a farang slut. At least a prostitute earns money and doesn't give it away to your (former) friends.

Years ago I had a girlfriend who was a bar girl. She stayed with me whenever she didn't have a customer. Back then I was a poor guy and if I could have afforded to get married, I would have married her. She ended up marrying a guy who was a former customer.

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Post by fatbob » October 30, 2013, 1:13 pm

Mods, pros---tition is the oldest profession in the world, is not a swear word so WHY is it being blacked out when used. Being an adult I don't understand the reason for this, I understand if I was to call someone a fu--ing c--t or similar, a bit bewildered!

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Post by BobHelm » October 31, 2013, 7:03 am

And it (along with a number of other innocuous words) just happens to be one of the words that family friendly Google does not like.

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If Google don't like, it goes... :D

I do not suggest that you bother to write to Google & say it is petty of them. That will be a complete waste of time..

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