nkstan wrote:It seems to me that when one seeks the ''truth and understanding''within a culture that accepts lies,corruption,avoidance of responsibility with the always convenient excuse or reason of ''face'',it is very very difficult if not impossible!In many cases, doing so only increases the tension,resentment and problems.
It is hard to evaluate the situation when one doesn't have a clear understanding of the facts and the ''players''.LUCK seems to be a big factor for those that feel successful.Time is a major factor!
Fully understand your point of view Stan, especially coming , as it does, so soon after your divorce . However I disagree about the time factor, other than the obvious , that we all change in many ways , over time. A marriage can go wrong from day one. I have been divorced twice. The first after 28 years, the second to a Thai, after 13.In both cases, the reason was due more to a change in me. What I still wanted from life, my hopes and ambitions, which I felt weren't being fulfilled within the confines of marriage . My first wife , mother of my daughter, accepted this and admitted, in her own words, " I was too much for her."So we divorced and still remain good friends to this day.The second wife , the Thai one, changed in the completely opposite direction. From being the stereotypical Thai lady, from a modest background, she became, after a few years in England, a successful, career minded, business woman. Which meant that , from being the husband caring, Asian style lady we all love, she changed to the very sort of female I had initially run away from . Oh yes , she still understood her wifely obligations to me, but felt paying someone else to cook and give me massage, yes even a mia noi to take care of the personal side, fulfilled the requirement .At first I accepted , even enjoyed this, but eventually I realised, that wasn't the sort of marriage I wanted. So we divorced, not amicably because she didn't understand why I wasn't happy with my lot .
Now I am coming up to our 10th anniversary with my present wife. We have our moments but generally because of my previous experiences from which I have learnt, we are enjoying our time together. I have settled down to a life of contentment and it's me that has changed to the Thai way of thinking, accepting it , warts and all. Not wanting her to change to mine .The future? Who knows but I am enjoying today .
Ageing is a privilige denied to many .