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Post by **jimboLV** » September 21, 2010, 11:23 pm

nkstan wrote: I still do not believe that the ladies ''fall in love '' with us as claimed ,security or scam is their sole purpose for being with us

I can't believe what I am reading on here. Seriously are we talking a bunch of 14 year old middle schoolers looking to "fall in love". What woman in the world would consider marrying a guy who lived in a cardboard box under a bridge abutment and supported himself by panhandling coins in parking lots? Is there something wrong with this? Does this make her a scammer? Ask yourself this question: would you want your daughters to marry a guy who had no future and could provide absolutely no security, financial or otherwise, for herself and her children, just because she was "in love" with him ?

Of course there are women who are only interested in fleecing guys for as much as they can and then dumping them. Just as there are some guys who are only interested in some steady poontang without any concern for the woman's future. Caveat emptor applies. But to characterize all women like this shows a shocking lack of experience or judgment.

Post by **vlad** » September 21, 2010, 11:47 pm

Just my story. I know a guy in Patters who met his tillac on line dont know if it was TLL got married opened a nice resturant in Patters 6 years down the line he had to return to England for a few week's on his return to Patters his Resturant was a pizza carry out and his tillac had moved her italian lover in. He is now skint after losing 20=30 grand.
So yes I agree with Stan there is a long game plan. There are still more horendous'e tale's told then the good one's its called the laws of average's. 90% scam 10% truth IMO.

Post by **hangsaboot** » September 22, 2010, 12:51 am

DermotC wrote:Ot, Wernt you the one who found his wfb dancing round a pole in Pattaya 10 years ago? lol

join the club ,

BUT,,
my is lady different ,
she has three legs , and one eye .

yep , ladyboy ..

sure, 90 per cent of people on tll are a waste of time ,that includes farangs .

many of whom are married in their home country , and just want photos / and msn chat thai lady.
then there are the ones that do a tour of thailand , meet up and bunk up.. thanks TLL.

my best wishes to all you lucky guys , that have found happiness , with a thai lady,,

Post by **jks** » September 22, 2010, 2:07 am

nkstan wrote:Hey it is great to hear a story of success.Don't mean to demean the relationship or cast any negatives at the lady because everything is possible and there are sincere people in the World and I hope you have found one of them!
If ,your not just in the middle of a ''long game'',of which I have seen a few ,firsthand,you are indeed lucky,IMO,you are perfect for the long game which is planned and played with sincerity, because of your ''ability'' to fall in love online(I don't understand it,probably never will,but that doesn't mean it is not a possibility)!

The ''long game'' is the one that wipes the sucker out ,because trust has been established,control of assets has passed from ''only you'' to mutual control!The blissful ''perfect relationship'' is the feeling,just before the door is shut!

My advice,if even wanted,would be to give control in increments over time that you might consider fair compensation if everything went tits up,but never be in a position to be wiped out!

I know it sounds cynical,but I have seen to many cases over my time here and I still do not believe that the ladies ''fall in love '' with us as claimed ,security or scam is their sole purpose for being with us,although many grow to ''love'' us with time if we are good people!
I really really hope your success continues!

Thx - I understand your sceptism and I can't blame you! I was so myself until ...! There were many things that I wanted to add to my story but thought it would be too long and loosing the point. The last 2½ yrs I have been living 200% intense 24 hrs a day with only focus on my future in LOS!
Coz my former job I am very much aware of everybody's behaviour, reactions, emotions and good at spotting the difference between what people say and what they really mean and think - inside! Here is NO talk 'bout "long game" or anything - no game at all! My missus knows by hard learning that I was honest when I spoke about I have no money and no savings and she does not care. The little baht I can manage she takes good care of and if we are very short she borrows some in the village or from family and everybody knows they get it back. Of the same reason nobody ask for money from me and it suits me really fine! All the baht I can get comes from hard work, 12 hrs a day, 7 days a week. When I'm in LOS we live on a very tight budget without bad feelings, "yag yag" or anything. One of the reasons that we goes on very well is maybe that we very quick found out that we had a lot in common and became eachothers "soul-mates" on all levels.
And - I am the one in control without question! She have freedom to many things but in certain matters I step on the brakes. When I'm not in LOS she makes sure to send me pictures of what she has done in the house about ex curtains, shelfs etc. according to the plan we agreed about before I left last time. I made a list of what I want made before I return and how. And she have seen me in the "angry"-mode (usually I'm extraordinary kind and peaceful - NEVER violent!) - she does not want to see me react like angry again!
$\:D/$

Post by **nkstan** » September 22, 2010, 6:43 am

jimboLV wrote:
nkstan wrote: I still do not believe that the ladies ''fall in love '' with us as claimed ,security or scam is their sole purpose for being with us
I can't believe what I am reading on here. Seriously are we talking a bunch of 14 year old middle schoolers looking to "fall in love". What woman in the world would consider marrying a guy who lived in a cardboard box under a bridge abutment and supported himself by panhandling coins in parking lots? Is there something wrong with this? Does this make her a scammer? Ask yourself this question: would you want your daughters to marry a guy who had no future and could provide absolutely no security, financial or otherwise, for herself and her children, just because she was "in love" with him ?

Of course there are women who are only interested in fleecing guys for as much as they can and then dumping them. Just as there are some guys who are only interested in some steady poontang without any concern for the woman's future. Caveat emptor applies. But to characterize all women like this shows a shocking lack of experience or judgment.

I am not sure why you your comment is directed at the selected quote of mine!I surely am not trying to say that there is anything wrong with marrying for security,it is probably a bigger factor all over the World than most would admit and IMO a better reason than just feeling that one is ''in love''!

My whole point was that when one knows that is the main reason,although many gals claim they ''love'' the guy initially online or after the meeting,it isn't true and the guy should definitely stay aware.The ''long game''is particularly devastating compared to some short term ''rips'' or an early breakup,because of asset control and the fact that there is a definite plan in place before the union!

I am not trying to ''characterize all women '' as scammers,if you thought so,then I expressed myself wrong or you misread my post!

And I damn sure don't think that all of the guys are saints,as I believe there are as many guys as gals that are playing games,both online and in person!

As you know me ,I subscribe to the human as being basicly selfish,which does not mean that ''all' humans act out there selfish desires without any concern for the effect on others,but some do,both man and woman!

When 2 ''good'' motivated people get together,I believe that over time ''love''naturally develops in most cases,but if one or both have extreme selfish desires as their reason for being together,somebody is going to get hurt!If it is a retired man who loses all his assets,it is particularly devastating as I have witnessed on several ocassions!That is not to make light of the pain suffered by the,usually,young girl that sacrifices her youth and outward beauty on some sleaze punter that is only after someone to service his desires without any real concern for her future!

Post by **jimboLV** » September 22, 2010, 9:46 am

Stan I wasn't directing my remarks to you specifically. I quoted from your post because your remark seemed to best summarize an attitude that I find prevalent on this thread, that MOST Thai women are scammers and cold bloodedy only looking out to get rich at the expense of the innocent, unwary farang. So you should feel flattered.

I see by your later post that that is not your position, so I apologize if I misread what you wrote. Now, we could get into a discussion of what constitutes "true love" but that would sure lead us nowhere. :-"

Post by **wayne747** » September 24, 2010, 3:37 pm

It is difficult.
One gets so afraid of scams, that when one meets a truly nice woman it is very hard to believe, and to make the jump.

Post by **easterneye** » September 25, 2010, 8:29 pm

Wayne I think you can learn so much from the girl concerned family ,, as much as you can learn from herself .
I met a lovely girl in the past , thought she was the one ,, but her Mum would have skinned me alive ,, I felt sorry for her and we went our seperate ways .
Later on met my current wife and spent a lot of time getting to know her family , and all I can say is I could not have landed amongst a more loving genuine family ,, never been asked for a bean the 3 years we have been together ( which I must say has suprised me ) yes she is Issan, yes she is via TLL.

Post by **wayne747** » September 25, 2010, 11:11 pm

Eastern, thanks
I happy glad to hear of your happiness.
Sometimes I guess it is necessary to take the good (gf) with the not so good (skin alive Mom

).
I am particularly impressed with the gents who admit they got fleeced, and just take it as a life experience and move on, and eventually find the right one. It would be easy just to turn your back on all Thai females.

Post by **redgoglac** » September 26, 2010, 6:04 am

I went on Thailovelinks a year ago, not really expecting anything but thinking I may as well give it a go as so many women here in the UK are bit, well lets say, overweight for want of a better word. I am quite a good cook but I am not going to wait hand and food on some pompous, lazy Brit who thinks food only comes already wrapped or waiter-served. Being a single Dad with two young daughters I desperately need someone who liked children. Most females over here that I was in contact with preferred dogs or horses! Their other hobbies, wine and fine dining. My funds precluded most of that anyway even though I own my house - vegetables are getting so expensive I grow my own.
Imagine my utter disbelief at the wonderful reception I received from Thai ladies. On my third day I was contacted by the love of my life and best of all she and my two girls adore each other. And she is so beautiful, kind and family oriented. Her figure... her... ... well I will just say ecstasy and heaven.
Of course, I need funds to fly me and my children between the UK and Thailand and I could see this could have been a problem but we managed fine, just.
And then... (Well years ago because I thought the banks were so crooked I invested my savings into a tiny oil exploration company when their shares were almost peanuts). More disbelief for Auy and me... they hit the motherload, a world class oil find last May and I will never have to work again, and nor will she. We made over two million bahts last week alone by doing nothing but laughing!
It seems love will not let anything get in its way.
She's never asked me for anything so I have given everything I think she needs. Yes, I told her to stop work and enjoy life - if I feel her bank account is getting low I top it up.
She has brought heaven to our lives and she will get that back over and over again. She's brought something else, a lovely innocence that has been lost forever over here.
Next week, because I know Thais have a weakness in this department I am going to tell my fiance to buy herself a gold necklace. Her eyes will twinkle.
What can I say about Thailovelinks. They provided us with the perfect vehicle for meeting. If you are genuine, a genuine lady will step forward.

Post by **easterneye** » September 27, 2010, 11:36 am

Well said redgoglac !!!!! good for you matey ,,,,, and your new lady ,,,,,,,,,, looks like you have found genuine happiness like we have ,,,, dont know if your living together yet , but if and when you do I expect you will draw the same stereotypical comments ( allthough not to your face ) from the blokes in the Uk walking around the shops on a Saturday afternoon with their big old tattoed buckets of wobbly lard hanging on to them demanding the latest stupid mobile phone.
ie . look at him with his gold digging Thai beside him ,,,,,,,,,,,, what they dont realise in our case in real terms in Thailand my missus owns more than I do in the Uk ,,,,,,,,,,, still they can think what they want I have never been so happy since we been together,,,,,,,,,,,,all the best for your future,s

Post by **jks** » September 27, 2010, 4:17 pm

easterneye wrote:Well said redgoglac !!!!! good for you matey ,,,,, and your new lady ,,,,,,,,,, looks like you have found genuine happiness like we have ,,,, dont know if your living together yet , but if and when you do I expect you will draw the same stereotypical comments ( allthough not to your face ) from the blokes in the Uk walking around the shops on a Saturday afternoon with their big old tattoed buckets of wobbly lard hanging on to them demanding the latest stupid mobile phone.
ie . look at him with his gold digging Thai beside him ,,,,,,,,,,,, what they dont realise in our case in real terms in Thailand my missus owns more than I do in the Uk ,,,,,,,,,,, still they can think what they want I have never been so happy since we been together,,,,,,,,,,,,all the best for your future,s

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Post by **BarnicaleBob** » November 2, 2010, 2:14 pm

I joined TLL while living in the States with the intention of retiring and moving to Thailand. I had spent a year in Thailand many years ago while in the Air Force and had some idea of what to expect plus I had joined this forum as well as Thivisa to learn more.
In time I met three ladies, the first two from the Udon area and the last one from Chiang Mai who seemed suitable for me. They were mature (between 40 and 49), attractive, and appeared to be looking for the same thing I was. I began to make plans to move to Udon and start a happy retirement.
In the end I ended up with the third lady who was from a small town just outside of Chiang Mai (Doi Saket) and ended up moving there to be with her. We have been together for a year now and we got married during my fourth month with her. I have never been happier in my life; she takes good care of me in all ways and is always by my side with her wonderful smile.
As it turned out she already owned her own car and a nice three bedroom two bath home with all the western toys (AC, internet, western Kitchen and TVs). She also had her own wholesale gift business and was not in any great need for my money. I have since advised her to sell her business and invest it into a retirement plan for her future when I may not be around so we could be together day and night.
So for me, TLL worked very well and I am so very grateful to have found the love of my life.

Post by **Banjo** » November 2, 2010, 3:17 pm

BarnicaleBob wrote: So for me, TLL worked very well and I am so very grateful to have found the love of my life.

Tis a veritable love story Barni .... may it long continue ... congratulations and best wishes for the future. =D>

Post by **jackspratt** » November 2, 2010, 4:55 pm

BarnicaleBob wrote: As it turned out she already owned her own car and a nice three bedroom two bath home with all the western toys (AC, internet, western Kitchen and TVs). She also had her own wholesale gift business and was not in any great need for my money. I have since advised her to sell her business and invest it into a retirement plan for her future when I may not be around so we could be together day and night.

All the best for the future BB, but I must confess (based on the circumstances you have outlined) that I would not have requested my spouse to sell what appears to be a successful business. That to me seems to be the most reliable form of retirement plan.

Post by **maaka** » November 3, 2010, 2:44 am

Ditto that Jack..I am glad for you BB, but never change a winning combination I always say..if your wife was to give up work, she would be under your feet all the time, and vice versa..I want my partner to be to work, so she can have a life outside of the relationship, make new friends, make alittle money herself that she thinks is hers, that sort of thing. Also I like my space and freedom as well. I was never one of these co dependant types, you know the ones that start up line dancing because the misses starts up line dancing, cant go away for a night without having to phone the wifey...whatever BB, but her giving up her job, will change more than just her work situation..maybe she could give up the weekends, or just work half days...glad you found her anyway, and you are happy. thats the main thing

Post by **jai yen yen** » November 3, 2010, 7:14 am

jks wrote:Interesting thread indeed! I have not been on TLL but used Thaikisses.com a few years back. I had never been to Thailand before. In 14 days I had 93 contacts from women aged from 18 - 60. Lots of them came up with quite direct offers: "come on, just be my husband, I do everything for you" etc etc followed by sending erotic pictures so from me: "bye bye" - not my style or idea of relationsship. Others suddenly had problems with pc, washing machine, sick family members aso and asked for money: "bye bye" from me.
BUT:
.... after 7 months with just chatting with a few contacts I received a message (3rd March 2008) from a 37 yrs old Isaan woman with two teenage daughters - picture knocked me out, plain, ordinary, natural looking, had not done anything to style herself to something modellike. Her message was simple and in thlish but honest and told that she liked my profile. No offers made or anything. Few days later together on web cam - was exactly as natural as on pictures, funny pure girl. Didnt care for age and that I'm quite poor. Sure I was afraid of scammers so I for days tried to "trick question" her but never fell into any of my "traps". Yes I was deeply "in love" at first sight on the screen but with all warning signs on. But she slowly put all signs on off in my backhead. She was in no way naive but was just being "herself" all the way. She even asked me to go online in the middle of the night (thai time) when she was sleeping. Woke her up by call on the mobile and was chatting even she was sleepy, she wanted to see me as much as possible. In fact we were online together for about 3-5 hrs every day - whenever possible.
On 2nd May I asked her to marry me by chat, email and sms (yeah I know I'm crazy - but I knew THIS was the woman I wanted for the rest of my life)! And she said yes everytime! We then agreed on marriage on 8th August 2008 so I arrived (for the first time) in Bangkok on 31st July. When we saw eachother in the airport there was absolutely NO doubt! Took directly to family in Samut Sakhon and had great lunch on me at fancy restaurant, nice. From there directly to the Hotel I had booked in advance and then she took me by surprise and next 3 days was most of the time on the bed, rest was sightseeing around BKK.
The short version of the following is that we got married the trad. thai-buddhist way in her little village in Isaan on 8th August and honeymoon around Phuket, Phi Phi og Koh Lanta.
I NEVER believed that I could be so lucky - have a beautiful wife, married now for more than 2 yrs, she offers me a fantastic life with family, never ask for money for herself, save whats possible for our future and now a bungalow has been built in the village for us - just big enough for us, not possible for family to get idea of moving in with us!
I read all "horror"-stories etc and happy that I have avoided all the "bad" people - can only say that YES it is possible to find true and real love through the internet.
Sorry for a looooooong story, hope you forgive me - I'm just a very happy and lucky farang!

Good for you, nice to hear another great story. I too found a wonderful lady on the internet, tll, 4 years now and it just keeps getting better. Health and Happiness to you and your lady.

Post by **old-timer** » November 3, 2010, 2:49 pm

OT, if he can be bothered, just winds these birds up.
No WFB's.

OT........... $\:D/$

Post by **nkstan** » November 4, 2010, 6:54 am

old-timer wrote:OT, if he can be bothered, just winds these birds up.
No WFB's.

OT........... $\:D/$

I am guessing that WFB means ''stunner'' and from my observations,stunners don't make great wives!The problem is that they are so ''deliciously desirable'',that many have a hard time not trying to ''keep'' them!

Post by **747man** » November 4, 2010, 2:48 pm

old-timer wrote:OT, if he can be bothered, just winds these birds up.
No WFB's.

OT........... $\:D/$

TYPICAL.............Just what I would have expected from YOU,Richardhead !!!( You'll notice I wrote ANOTHER sentence without using any profanities )

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