luangtom wrote:There many good responses relative to "sin sod" and some not. My wife and I understood it was up to me as to how much or if there would be sin sod, some 37 years ago.
Assuming you're 60 years old now, that would make you 23 years old when you decided to tie the knot. Back then, the exchange rate was probably much more favourable than it is now. Couple that with general attitudes towards marriage with a foreigner back in 1973 and I suppose I'm not surprised the question of sin sod didn't crop up. The tourist industry in Thailand was virtually non-existent in the early 70's and therefore Thais weren't exposed to the concept of seemingly wealthy foreigners in the same way they are today. Presumably you were in the military back then and possibly based in Thailand? I'm only thinking of the ongoing Vietnam war at that time. Assuming I'm correct, I don't know to what degree soldiers splashed out on the local hookers.
luangtom wrote:....withholding sex for material things in the USA and how is that any different than prostitution.
Sorry, but I don't agree with that viewpoint at all. Prostitution is the sale of sex to anybody
for money. A girl holding back on losing her virginity to the guy she loves until he ties the knot is not quite the same thing I think.
Nevertheless, I appreciate your input. Thank you for that.
rick wrote:Part of the problem is the social standing of the family and if she is a virgin or not. When you are a virgin and your sisters went for big sin sod, huge loss of face to go for little or nothing. But 300,00 more middling rich village family. And the gold for display. Also, 30,000 does not buy much of a wedding - remember, family is big here. 300 people - well, thats your 30k gone on food alone. So proper village weddings ain't cheap. If i had known how much it was going to cost, i think i would have done a runner when the matter of marriage was first brought up.
But if you are lucky, you might find the girl (probably divorced) who will settle for just 'take care'.
I suppose the biggest problem I have with sin sod is that I find the whole rigmarole somewhat distasteful especially if it's going to be performed by the local village headman laying out each 1,000 Baht note in a circle on a cloth on the floor for the rest of the villagers to gloat over. It's almost obscene.
In some respects, the plummeting value of the Euro is working in my favour right now. I can at least make the excuse now that with the current exchange rate as it stands this morning @ 39.8972 means I can no longer afford to hand over the sum of money her mother is asking for.
Any TG that has a such a controlling mother is bad news and your relationship is doomed to fail eventually if not immediately.
Yes, your point of view serves to illustrate my biggest worry, namely that I find myself living in a foreign country with a divorce on my hands and nowhere to go. I don't have enough cash to apply for a retirement visa and would find myself out on a limb and being forced to leave the country if that were to happen.