Thoms and child support

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Re: Thoms and child support

Post by johanthomsen » April 17, 2019, 8:58 pm

If you dont feel like they pity you, then that is probably because they infact dont do... It is as the saying goes: Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice shame on me..

Their culture is nothing that we are used to and understanding it is often an enigma and it is not to be understood... Just do what is right for you, because if you dont love yourself and you dont feel love from others, then there is no need to stick around there.

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Re: Thoms and child support

Post by Hoopoe » April 17, 2019, 11:32 pm

HA , i at first thought the original poster was just trolling ,(can't believe anyone would live like that for any length of time , yes i know we're not all the same )but it seem's some replies know him , but i still have my suspicions as there has been no response from OP since ,

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Re: Thoms and child support

Post by Natas » April 18, 2019, 1:25 am

Always the same story over here "____ wanted baht for ____ and blah blah". "Her English was so good".. "She is my true love"...
yeah ok.
If you cannot wake up or anyone and walk away.
"som na na" to you.

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Re: Thoms and child support

Post by saint » April 18, 2019, 1:18 pm

Hoopoe wrote:
April 17, 2019, 11:32 pm
HA , i at first thought the original poster was just trolling ,(can't believe anyone would live like that for any length of time , yes i know we're not all the same )but it seem's some replies know him , but i still have my suspicions as there has been no response from OP since ,
He appears to be not 100%

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Re: Thoms and child support

Post by dragonz » April 18, 2019, 4:19 pm

saint wrote:
April 16, 2019, 1:24 pm
You reap what you sow . just saying . However im curious why you gave a guy trying to sell his MU7 not so long ago, such a hard time , then telling him you wanted a pick up , if you dont have a pot to piss in ?
But i now understand why you are such a bitter little man .
you are the backside of a donkey . i was giving the guy a hard time as his post was and is a load of bull . I never said i do not have a pot to piss in just my pension does not go far enough to rent a place in the city and pay for 2 little boys whio i love dearly

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Re: Thoms and child support

Post by dragonz » April 18, 2019, 4:20 pm

saint wrote:
April 18, 2019, 1:18 pm
Hoopoe wrote:
April 17, 2019, 11:32 pm
HA , i at first thought the original poster was just trolling ,(can't believe anyone would live like that for any length of time , yes i know we're not all the same )but it seem's some replies know him , but i still have my suspicions as there has been no response from OP since ,
He appears to be not 100%
miscreant

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Re: Thoms and child support

Post by dragonz » April 18, 2019, 4:40 pm

Jello wrote:
April 16, 2019, 2:01 pm
Sorry to hear about your situation Dragonz. Some good advice above. Now that the mother and her friends are home, it would be a good time for you to take a sabbatical away from home. Let them take care of the boys.

Your concern for the children is commendable, but you need to take care of yourself first and consider your options. How much help will you be to the children if you continue to let the rest of the family drain you financially and mentally?

Trying to change your families behavior now will be difficult since you've let them get away with it for the past 10 years.

Good luck.
cheers mate probably good advice but i know they will not look after them properly and i love them dearly. This years bill for christian school is due in may and i know they will not pay and take him out of the school he has been in for 6 years and send him to the crazy one in the village where he does not want to go . They both sleep in my bedroom with the aircon all their lives and would find it hard to sleep with just a fan
AS for the verbal abusers it did not start out like this . I looked after them with their parents who had little work but i looked after the boys while they went to work and just built up to the point they are now both working and refuse to pay any money .The nasty gets who think i do not have a pot to piss in could not have had children as the cost is enormous even in thailand esp for school .
monday blue shorts white shirt
tues green shirt blue shorts
wed sports pink shirt black trousers
thurs boy scouts
fri sports yellow shirt green trousers all purchaesed from relatives of the teachers
school fees 30,000 baht a year , bus 12,000 baht a year , 70 baht a day for food in school 16,000 baht a year , 58,000 baht just for school and the other little boy 3 has just started a young school and they want different uniform everyday ?!
Probably a good 100,000 baht a year without trips to the beach or swimming pools etc so please do not call me names as saint does , not 100% for looking after 2 great little boys , both speak good english and the older one can read a good bit . Anyway i would never leave them to their mother who would hurt them as she does not give a dam about them .
At the end of the year i get another pension and will double my income so no problems then but just really upsets me 1 that my wife sides with them and i have had a good life with my wife until now 2 that her daughter buys a new car and bike goes to udon every night and does not think it is wrong that i cannot do so as i have to pay for her 2 boys

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Re: Thoms and child support

Post by dragonz » April 18, 2019, 4:55 pm

saint wrote:
April 18, 2019, 1:18 pm
Hoopoe wrote:
April 17, 2019, 11:32 pm
HA , i at first thought the original poster was just trolling ,(can't believe anyone would live like that for any length of time , yes i know we're not all the same )but it seem's some replies know him , but i still have my suspicions as there has been no response from OP since ,
He appears to be not 100%
so because i look after what are really 2 little orphan boys i am not 100 %
tell you a story
10 yrs ago my wifes daughter ran off to sukothai with a young boy from the hill tribes and had a baby . 10 months later we heard they were working in bkk and an old woman was looking after the baby. My wife and i went to see the baby . When we got there i was horrified . The old woman was 79 and the baby was lying in excrement and pee , covered in wasp stings, ant and mosquito bites He was a right mess . paid her 10,000 bahts and took him home . For the first 4 yrs of his life i kept him alive . He had lots of skin chest lung problems . Gave him mouth to mouth all the way to udon on a tuk tuk one night when his lung collapsed , paid thousands in hospital bills , sat up night after night with him coughing and struggling to breath until saringarind hospital finally solved the problem when he was 4 , just as his parent came back home . he never knew them , did not speak thai and would not go with them but as they lived in the old house next door no problem
saint and hoopoe you are sad sick people who ridicule me for what i have done
these are my 2 boys today with the older one now fine and healthy
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Re: Thoms and child support

Post by Jello » April 18, 2019, 11:25 pm

Dragonz, your a hero to those boys.
I hope things work out for you.

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Re: Thoms and child support

Post by tinpeeba » April 19, 2019, 2:22 am

Dragonz you are a very good hearted man and those two lads are very lucky to have you looking out for them.

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Re: Thoms and child support

Post by Hoopoe » April 19, 2019, 2:48 am

Yep that's me ,sad and actually sick ,but still enjoying life here as difficult as it get's ,but for questioning wether a post is genuine or just a troll ,( as there are many,) and the post being (HA , i at first thought the original poster was just trolling ,(can't believe anyone would live like that for any length of time , yes i know we're not all the same )but it seem's some replies know him , but i still have my suspicions as there has been no response from OP since ,)now if you believe this is full of ridicule , then i believe you are 100% as has been mentioned ,

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Re: Thoms and child support

Post by saint » April 19, 2019, 6:33 am

dragonz wrote:
April 18, 2019, 4:19 pm
saint wrote:
April 16, 2019, 1:24 pm
You reap what you sow . just saying . However im curious why you gave a guy trying to sell his MU7 not so long ago, such a hard time , then telling him you wanted a pick up , if you dont have a pot to piss in ?
But i now understand why you are such a bitter little man .
you are the backside of a donkey . i was giving the guy a hard time as his post was and is a load of bull . I never said i do not have a pot to piss in just my pension does not go far enough to rent a place in the city and pay for 2 little boys whio i love dearly
In your opinion it was bull . We all have opinions . In my opinion it was genuine , see opinions .
And yes i may well be the backside of a donkey (another opinion ) but you are not going to pin your tail on me !!!!!
Out of interest , you being the good samaritan and all .
You paid an old woman 10, 000 baht for a baby , was any of this legal , even in Thailand . Just curious .

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Re: Thoms and child support

Post by maaka » April 19, 2019, 10:27 am

the OP first wrote on the 15th April, and yet by the 17th April some of you were questioning if he was a troll, because you hadnt heard a reply from him what in 2 DAYS...geez maybe he's busy with caring for 2 little boys, rather than be glued to his computer reading gossip and menu's...

I remember my first post on UM some 12 years ago, someone thought I was a troll, because they couldnt fathom a guy could be so open, and down to earth..

Dragonz, hang in there Mate. Some days are just meant to be like this..

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Re: Thoms and child support

Post by Hoopoe » April 19, 2019, 11:02 am

An old friend of mine Major John,(rip) once quoted if you show Kindness most of the time it will be taken as a sign of weakness , IF YOU DON"T TAKE CONTROL , they will abuse your kindness AGAIN & AGAIN , thereby creating a rod for your own back .
If your family shows no support (eg Wife )remove any and all funds , don't forget if you have a pension that she will get a % of when you kick the bucket you can also remove that showing her, if you still get no support ,i'm afraid it's time to leave.
IN my opinion the OP( because of his kindness ) has made a huge rod for his back , but other than "post for all to see" is not doing anything about it ,SOM NOM NAH

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Re: Thoms and child support

Post by glalt » April 19, 2019, 12:17 pm

I think school is out so you could take the boys on a holiday. Money shouldn't be a problem since the family could not leech off you. Rent a decent place for a month or so and see if there is an attitude change at home.

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