What would you do in my situation! Friendly advice needed

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Post by captain gon » March 16, 2011, 8:05 pm

I don`t really care if story is true or not. I´ve experienced, heard and read about far worse, long before I came to this country. Still pondering the question in the header. What would I have done? Given there are children involved, it`s a hard one for me. But some things are clear. The foundation for a relationship is trust. In this case I doubt that I would ever trust this woman again. The explanation she gave with inlaws present is not nesessarily true. It`s just convenient. Remember the ´or else´ before they got involved. What would I do in a similar situation? I would pull my walking boots out of the closet and give them a good shine, and make sure she`ll see it, then put them back in again. Good luck



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Re: What would you do in my situation! Friendly advice neede

Post by Bandung_Dero » March 16, 2011, 8:28 pm

Ho hum, some of you guys must by related to our fruit loop of an Australian politician who is attempting to quash all sport on the ABC Asia satellite feeds and promote culture in the form of the 16th repeat of "Mums and Daughters", "Days of Our Lives", "Coronation Street", "Lassie" and any other bit of rubbish he can find!

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Post by Khun Paul » March 16, 2011, 10:05 pm

While I have monitored this post with some degree of scepticism, I do make a comment which reinforces the comment of TRUST. Any good relationship does in main rely on trust, Stevie R must be taking a lot on words, with little trust, but then it is his wife and one presumes he must trust her. personally I wopuld have gone by now.

With a short comment on the 'B' word, the society I enjoyed and lived does not use it, I have no idea about others but use of that word is discouraged as with many other words, unlike on the other side of the pond where swearing is the norm , I remain always a gentleman in the presence of women however they may speak. The use of that word is demeaning, whether they deserve it or not. You should always be able to use a word that is not considered a swear word.

Nuff said on that subject and this post in fact

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Post by bigsnake » March 16, 2011, 10:07 pm

Yes, these Woman are great liars, I have been with one for ten years and don't believe and everything she say just THREAD carefully and watch for funny moves.

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Re: What would you do in my situation! Friendly advice neede

Post by thalenoi » March 18, 2011, 11:15 am

to StevieR,

It's a pity really we won't hear any further developments of what's happening around your village, but I do understand how some replies here make you decide to call it a day.

I disagree with sending half of the money back to the idiot sending 40k/month.

I also understand your wife to keep this little source of revenue for herself.

Now what I would have done discovering this scam is to require the ongoing funds to be used for monthly expenses.
I do not spend 40k/month on cost of living here. Thus all would benefit, also the Swedish guy, by ignoring the scam :D

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Post by DermotC » March 18, 2011, 3:49 pm

Come back StevieR, Id like an update. Some people like to give you a hard time but more od us are interested. There have been some idiots on here before and alot of us are just a bit sick of them but to be honest Id really like to know whats happening. Cheers

Dermot

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Post by dll22 » March 19, 2011, 1:46 am

I wouldn't jump in, or even let on that I was suspicious until I had done a little investigation.

The innocent explanation is that there has been female gossip along the lines of ' Did you hear that some farang will send you money just for chatting on line... mai chue a ...jing jing etc' followed by a giggling group trying it out just to see - and discover it works. A bit like getting money out of the ATM. No thought, no malice, no problem for your relationship. Just a quiet and private discussion about why it is wrong - not a public family discussion.

However

When I hear that a farang is paying a regular and sizeable sum, I wouldn't assume that he is a fool. I would assume that he has met up and has had value for money, and is expecting more of the same. Since you obtained his contact details I would ask him. OK I can be devious, but in this country you watch your back yourself. Hi xxx, haven't been in contact for some time, last time we spoke you were off to Thailand. How did it go? Must keep in touch. Thinking of the same thing, any advice?

Chances are he will tell you - except you have blown that possibility.
He is probably delighted to get his money back!!

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Post by chanthima13 » May 6, 2011, 6:11 am

hello dear I am Thai woman and married ... you did the right thing ,,basically ,i think she plan to leave you ..as many of my friends did just like your wife ,,,,I am sorry to hear that but it seem like she is not happy what you are giving her ..maybe you just need to ask her what made she did that ....

Good luck

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Post by Aardvark » May 6, 2011, 3:33 pm

chanthima13 wrote:hello dear I am Thai woman and married ... you did the right thing ,,basically ,i think she plan to leave you ..as many of my friends did just like your wife ,,,,I am sorry to hear that but it seem like she is not happy what you are giving her ..maybe you just need to ask her what made she did that ....

Good luck
Hi Chanthima13, thanks for your input. Hope to hear more from you as we have very few Ladies on this Forum. I and I'm sure many others feel there is a need for constructive input from Thai Ladies, especially on subjects close to the Heart. Hope to hear more from you in the future =D>

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What would you do in my situation! Friendly advice needed

Post by TicToc » May 6, 2011, 3:46 pm

I'll 2nd that Aardvark.
I too would be very happy to read some input from Thai ladies on any subject. So come on all you wives/girlfriends
lets have some input.

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Post by chanthima13 » May 8, 2011, 5:22 am

thanks ,, I am new to this site ,,but I have been peaking for many years tho ... its just good for me to hear what other farang opinion about thier wives .. my husband and I have been married for 9 years and we are now ready to move to thailand but not sure yet what where we are going to live and do ,, we have many ideas but havent come to an agreement we are sick of paying tax for our house and income here in the U.S as many of you feel I hope ...

J

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